Marriage help (males only )

[Emily]

Do you live under a rock or something? The reason most of your marriages never last is because y’all place so much value on a hymen than characteristics and compatibility. Somalian men are so fucking weird

 

[buuqiyobalayo]

I’m only posting in this thread bc last time I said girls only guys still came

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Women are not commodity, they are fucking humans. And paying a dowry is part of culture has nothing to do with women’s virginity.

I'm still paying a mehr regardless. If the person I met fit all the requirements I wanted but told me before hand she wasn't a virgin before the marriage I would still go through with it.

But an expensive mehr is something I wouldn't accept if I new beforehand the person was a non virgin. I'm more interested in marrying a virgin than a non virgin.a virgin to me is someone who took their deen seriously and abstained as long as I did. A jewl. I would definelfy pay whatever they wanted.

In that guy situation though I don't think I would divorce. Probably be bummed out for a couple of days though. I wouldn't want to be lied too.

 

[lone]

Step it up and get her a sister wife. Goodluck op

 

[SumMo]

Let it go dude, don't throw away the sanctity of a marriage because of something she did before she met you.

You sounds sane here. Are you bipolar?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

I’m only posting in this thread bc last time I said girls only guys still came

What do you think the brother should do?

She did lie to him. It was even in the marriage contract.

 

[Jake from State Farm]

OP don't divorce if she is a good person, and potential good wife material.

 

[MrSalih]

What sane girl would tarnish her reputation by admitting this?



Most guy's on this forum are married to Born Again virgins.

 

[Slickback]

Step it up and get her a sister wife. Goodluck op

Past all that naked man on a cross malarkey there's still a geeljire inside you. That's why I couldn't vote for you in that other thread

 

[Muji]

So after i had a conversation with wife yesterday she admitted to me that she wasn't a virgin before we got married.
And she told me before the marriage that she was a virgin, and i wrote in the contract that i wanted her to be a virgin.

At this moment i am seriously considering a divorce, since we've only been married for 1 month.

Are you a virgin?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Also one more thing

MY NIGGA IF YOU ARE NOT A VIRGIN YOU DONT DESERVE TO GO ASKING AROUND FOR A VIRGIN SPOUSE.

 

[Wardheere]

What sane girl would tarnish her reputation by admitting this?



Most guy's on this forum are married to Born Again virgins.

My first marriage was virgin. Both of us laugh about it when we remember.

 

[Slickback]

Also one more thing

MY NIGGA IF YOU ARE NOT A VIRGIN YOU DONT DESERVE TO GO ASKING AROUND FOR A VIRGIN SPOUSE.

Anyone can ask for anything, the other party gets to decide whether they'll entertain it or not

 

[SumMo]

And this is why the divorce rates are so high..

 

[Oranges&Lemons]

Firstly, get tested. Secondly, a marriage lasting a month is a red flag on your relationship CV.

 

[Wardheere]

Are you a virgin?

No divorce though if she is good wife.

 

[Subeer]

Are you a virgin?

Yes

 

[Muji]

Yes

I don’t believe you.

 

[Jake from State Farm]

And this is why the divorce rates are so high..

What do you think he should do?

I'm thinking he should ask for a portion of the mehr back and use that money on zakat or Spend it on the construction of a masjid.

 

[Subeer]

Man just thinking of this situation gives me a headache.

I feel like if I was in his situation and just found out my wife was a non virgin. I would have just left the house and contemplated about life for a few days.

My thoughts:"Nigga you dead ass abstained for 20+ years but ended up losing your virginity to a non virgin"

My thoughts again: "my nigga I paid 10k+ plus for this female and she wasn't even a virgin! Man wtf"

Yeah man its fucked, women lie nothing new