Marriage help (males only )

[Wardheere]

Firstly, get tested. Secondly, a marriage lasting a month is a red flag on your relationship CV.

Keep it for 10 years to improve the cv

 

[Subeer]

So u didn't know she was a 'virgin' after the waasmo night? No blood in the sheet? R u trolling?

No she said to me that she lost her hymen through sport

 

[AliUK]

You payed all that meher for nothing?

Think about the divorce settlement too...

What settlement?

If he got married legally as in the law of the land then he is a big idiot and deserves what's coming.

 

[Basic]

No she said to me that she lost her hymen through sport

What made her admit it to you now?

 

[Subeer]

What settlement?

If he got married legally as in the law of the land then he is a big idiot and deserves what's coming.

We got married the islamic way no government shit here

 

[AliUK]

My bad sxb wallahi I just got a little heated reading his thread.
I would just be bummed out and disappointed if I paid a lot and the chick didn't fit all the preferences I wanted.

Why tho,your the same guy who prefers Becky's over our own and lord knows they lose their virginity at 13.

 

[Mercury]

Im curious are you a virgin?

Otherwise it makes no sense why You would Divorce her for it

 

[SumMo]

What do you think he should do?

I'm thinking he should ask for a portion of the mehr back and use that money on zakat or Spend it on the construction of a masjid.

I think he needs to look into himself first. Was he himself 100% honest before getting married? If the answer is yes, then think about the situation. Why did you marry her? Is she worth letting go of? Can she be the mother of your children? What kind of wife is she?

I personally think that you shouldn’t divorce someone for one mistake or one problem, unless that is a major problem (such as mental/physical abuse or infidelity). Lies are a big problem as well, because it breaks the trust in the relationship. But it has to be more than 1 lie for me to bounce..

The sins she has commited is between her and Allah(swt). However the lie she told you is a problem between the two. I say fix it!

Think long and hard before you file for a divorce. You have only been with her for 1 month. It’s marriages like this that shame our community and gives us the high-divorce rate stigma. I say think about the bigger picture before you make a stupid decision.

If it’s valuable you fix it, you don’t throw it all away! That’s what i think. But then again, I don’t know the full story.

 

[lone]

Past all that naked man on a cross malarkey there's still a geeljire inside you. That's why I couldn't vote for you in that other thread

Marriage is built on trust.

 

[World]

Honestly I would just divorce her if she lied to me about her virginity. If she lost her virginity before marriage, then she was probably a khamri drinking, club going, local bicycle.

 

[MrSalih]

The customer is always right.
Item was not as described.
Requesting return to sender.

Expectation - 100% refund.

 

[AliUK]

We got married the islamic way no government shit here

Good lad, that means your next decision won't be more likely to stay because you dont want to pay a settlement. Now you have a chance to weigh up the pros and cons and make a decision.

Take time on the decision, think the name of the prayer is istikhara and good luck.

Ps if you do decide to divorce, stay with her for a while before you tell her whilst not sleeping with her so you know if you got her pregnant.

 

[Cumar]

If I were you I'd divorce in a heartbeat.

No hymen no diamond that's the motto.

 

[Subeer]

I think he needs to look into himself first. Was he himself 100% honest before getting married? If the answer is yes, then think about the situation. Why did you marry her? Is she worth letting go of? Can she be the mother of your children? What kind of wife is she?

I personally think that you shouldn’t divorce someone for one mistake or one problem, unless that is a major problem (such as mental/physical abuse and infidelity). Lies are a big problem as well, because it breaks the trust in the relationship. But it has to be more than 1 lie for me to bounce.

The sins she has commited is between her and Allah(swt). However the lie she told you is a problem between the two. I say fix it!

Think long before you file for a divorce. You have only been with her for 1 month. It’s marriages like this that shame our community and gives us the high-divorce rate stigma. I say think about the bigger picture before you make a stupid decision.

If it’s valuable you fix it, you don’t throw it all away! That’s what i think. But then again, I don’t know the full story and all.

Marriage isn't a relationship only build upon emotions and romance, but a business contract that the rights of both gets protected.
And since i was a virgin before we got married, im entitled to one.

 

[Sleepy Hollow]

I would say to demand a refund and leave the marriage. Forcing yourself to stay will only hurt you in the end and delay your fresh start on life.

 

[AliUK]

If I were you I'd divorce in a heartbeat.

No hymen no diamond that's the motto.

I am dead. I am also 100% stealing that line.

 

[Subeer]

Good lad, that means your next decision won't be more likely to stay because you dont want to pay a settlement. Now you have a chance to weigh up the pros and cons and make a decision.

Take time on the decision, think the name of the prayer is istikhara and good luck.

Ps if you do decide to divorce, stay with her for a while before you tell her whilst not sleeping with her so you know if you got her pregnant.

Wallahi that is the scariest part i can imagine, me knockin her up would be worst case scenario

 

[SumMo]

Marriage isn't a relationship only build upon emotions and romance, but a business contract that the rights of both gets protected.
And since i was a virgin before we got married, im entitled to one.

If you’re a virgin then so should she, ngl. I feel the same way. The guy I marry has to be a virgin as well. The clean guy is for the clean girl, that’s how it goes.

But I feel like it’s a little too late for that, since you’re already married to her. I don’t know. It’s a sticky situation. But I personally wouldn’t find this reason enough for me to divorce, but it would make me think about it..

And also how did you not know she wasn’t a virgin? Like she prob must have been too experienced, which gives it away. Thats what I’m gonna base it of on when I get married one day. (insha’Allah).

 

[Sleepy Hollow]

Wallahi that is the scariest part i can imagine, me knockin her up would be worst case scenario

I mean if she is pregnant I recommend you do a paternity test on the child just to be safe sxb.

 

[Oranges&Lemons]

Marriage isn't a relationship only build upon emotions and romance, but a business contract that the rights of both gets protected.
And since i was a virgin before we got married, im entitled to one.

Ah I see. Still, give her a while before you bounce. You know... atleast TRY and get past it.

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