Marriage is overrated

[Abdalla]

Its a responsibility you have to be ready for and I enjoy it personally. I don't regret it for a sec. Skaabulo aint life. Ilahay baa naleh

Majority of them go straight from mamas house to marriage. They haven’t experienced skaabulo life, never lived in their own or shared a flat with others. A lot of them are not ready for the real world.

There’s no honeymoon phase, the first few months are the months were the most fights take place. It takes time and effort.

 

[Shaafici Mujaahid]

Btw I’ve dated dozens of gabdho it’s fun that way. Tbh the Latina ones are much better than abusive Xalimos

 

[Abdalla]

Btw I’ve dated dozens of gabdho it’s fun that way. Tbh the Latina ones are much better than abusive Xalimos

Latinas are headaches. Dated one and I get migraine just thinking about that period

 

[Shaafici Mujaahid]

Btw the best women is a devil at home. I have 7 sisters who are angels outside with everyone praising them but if only they knew the curription they are at home. Gabdho are devils at home!!

 

[Shaafici Mujaahid]

Latinas are headaches. Dated one and I get migraine just thinking about that period

You dated a long time did you don’t take a while with them

 

[Lostbox]

We spend our whole 20-30s trying to find the right perosn to marry…once we get married and after the honeymoon stage, marriage just become a chore..it’s like having a roomate + a job combined…I thought I would be so much happier after marriage (after all everyone married looks so happy and fulfilled on insta) only to feel like I lost my independence and added a tons more responsibility with a baby on the way…

Enjoy the single life my fellow xalimos and faraxs..once you pop that baby your life changes a lot!

You can always co-parent for some extra freedom but still limited

 

[Kool-Aid]

We spend our whole 20-30s trying to find the right perosn to marry…once we get married and after the honeymoon stage, marriage just become a chore..it’s like having a roomate + a job combined…I thought I would be so much happier after marriage (after all everyone married looks so happy and fulfilled on insta) only to feel like I lost my independence and added a tons more responsibility with a baby on the way…

Enjoy the single life my fellow xalimos and faraxs..once you pop that baby your life changes a lot!

People only post their happy moments on social media! I can't believe you fell for that

Have you thought about getting a divorce and going back to your bachelor lifestyle?

 

[Kimk]

Is this your TRUE STORY, How old are you?

Yes and I am 30

 

[Kimk]

People only post their happy moments on social media! I can't believe you fell for that

Have you thought about getting a divorce and going back to your bachelor lifestyle?

Yeah but at the end of the day most of us have fairy tale mentally about marriage

 

[Kimk]

You can always co-parent for some extra freedom but still limited

 

[Kimk]

Nah I just need to adjust my expectations….focus on developing myself and working on communication

 

[Kimk]

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I’ve been with women and know what my parents marriage has been like. They agreed to hate each other it’s really amusing at times but I agree with my father over my mom. He doesn’t really say bad things about her to me it’s the other way around. Wallahi the only reason their marriage worked for that long is because he listens to everything she says. But he hates her guts. He hasn’t slept in the same room as her for a minute

My parents are the same..they just stuck together for kids and convience

 

[Kimk]

There is no such thing as “honeymoon phase”, or it finishing. That’s just gaalo BS, they have 30 partners before marriage and get bored after a few months because their dopamine is fried. It sounds like you just don’t like your partner or have grown tired of them. The longer you are with them, the more love grows and the better it gets.

Agreed..thanks for the advice

 

[Nilotic]

Btw I’ve dated dozens of gabdho it’s fun that way. Tbh the Latina ones are much better than abusive Xalimos

Latinas are known for straigh up shouting at and hitting their men; they are accorded the benefit of being called 'feisty' for the same behaviours that AA women get condemned for.

 

[Periplus]

^^^ @Nilotic

 

[NordicSomali]

You need to have your financials prepared otherwise marriage might become a misery. Tons of Somalis have married wile young and many have divorced.

Also spend lots of time getting to know that person.

You have to be deeply in love with the person you are marrying because you need a reason to enjoy your time with her 24/7 even when she's at her worst. Love has to be the first condition for the marriage, not simply liking her or for religious reasons, but a deep attachment and passion.

 

[Yukon_Niner]

Latinas are known for straigh up shouting at and hitting their men; they are accorded the benefit of being called 'feisty' for the same behaviours that AA women get condemned for.

^^^ @Nilotic

Such is the plight of the African American woman. It's even worse for Asian men, imagine being economically successful, the least criminal and somehow you're considered the ugliest type of male to exist even to your own race. At least with AA women they can find a relationship just by being a woman.

They should just get together tbh

 

[Hared]

marriage just like any relationship evolves with human advances.
mans evolution has gone through phases., from a mainly physical being to an emotional one and now he is going through his mental phase. all his relationships need to adjust and adapt to his current phase. one of the problems with current marriages are that they are still stuck in the emotional phase which is quite fragile and undependable in todays mental world. the feel is just not there any more. you have to take it to the next level and start bringing your mind more into marriages. the qualities commensurate with todays marriage are tolerance, consideration, empathy, appreciation, inclusivity and the critical ability to be together yet with space in between. this are mainly mental qualities. and i might add the true test of a mans manliness is generosity to his wife and family first
and dont give the financial prudence thing f*ck it, thats just an excuse for a miser. and to finish as a matter of knowledge mans final phase in life before life ends is spiritual.

with thanks.

 

[Kaaha_Nuura]

Its a responsibility you have to be ready for and I enjoy it personally. I don't regret it for a sec. Skaabulo aint life. Ilahay baa naleh

Do you have room for one more wife?

 

[Kaaha_Nuura]

Yeah but at the end of the day most of us have fairy tale mentally about marriage

Nah I'm scared this is going to happen to me aswell.

Do you and your husband do things to spice up your marriage?