Marriage

[Baarisiyomoos]

Shoot your shot with the guy you like. Trust me contrary to popular belief many guys will actually appreciate it. Don't be too direct but make it known you are interested. This would make guys more comfortable to shoot their shot.

im scared he would think im some ciyaal suuq woman since I’d approach him instead of the other way around. how do i make it known without being direct? do i just talk about class?

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I mean my luuq is always free hit me up , I’m looking to find my other half

not luuq

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I've noticed most of the Somali girls in my uni walk in groups which I think scare off a lot of guys

ah would it be easier for a guy to approach a girl if she’s alone? the somali guys i see always sit in big groups in class, im scared they’ll laugh in my face if i came up to chat

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Finish your uni first, that’s what I’m doing. After I finish I plan to get myself married

i want to find a prospective husband now and then marry after grad InshaAllah. Its much easier to find a spouse in uni

 

[Khaem]

i wish they’d come up to me and have a chat i don’t bite, but even when I walk past them and try to muster up the courage to say hi, they look down or fiddle with their phones lool. im just very afraid of rejection ig

Damn I guess both sides are facing the same issues.

 

[Khaem]

ah would it be easier for a guy to approach a girl if she’s alone? the somali guys i see always sit in big groups in class, im scared they’ll laugh in my face if i came up to chat

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[Dashiki Bucaale]

ah would it be easier for a guy to approach a girl if she’s alone? the somali guys i see always sit in big groups in class, im scared they’ll laugh in my face if i came up to chat

Yeah talking to a girl in a group is overwhelming for a lot of guys unless you share mutuals with him

 

[cooli3o]

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bruv they are literally the most unapproachable ppl but they are just fronting behind that they are normal

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

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[cooli3o]

i wish they’d come up to me and have a chat i don’t bite, but even when I walk past them and try to muster up the courage to say hi, they look down or fiddle with their phones lool. im just very afraid of rejection ig

bro do you know how many women complain of men coming up to them and trying to talk to them, become friends, etc etc..
be happy men are avoiding u, it is part of the men don't harrass women or chat them up or even interact with them culture, it is mainly there to protect women, the men are being respectful, 90% sure at least half of them have thought of clapping your fuuto cheeks.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

bruv they are literally the most unapproachable ppl but they are just fronting behind that they are normal

yea most somali girls are caadi, no one will make fun of a somali guy for coming up to them unless he says something crazy

 

[cooli3o]

ah would it be easier for a guy to approach a girl if she’s alone? the somali guys i see always sit in big groups in class, im scared they’ll laugh in my face if i came up to chat

they will like it, plus who are you actually interested in? if its one guy in particular try to talk to him

 

[cooli3o]

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I like it more cos its more of a challenge

 

[xxx_newacc]

im scared he would think im some ciyaal suuq woman since I’d approach him instead of the other way around. how do i make it known without being direct? do i just talk about class?

Sis, I would advise you to not approach a guy first, unless you’re in the same class or something. Maybe it’s just me but I wouldn’t like it to be said for posterity that I (the female) was the one who chatted/moved to him first.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

bro do you know how many women complain of men coming up to them and trying to talk to them, become friends, etc etc..
be happy men are avoiding u, it is part of the men don't harrass women or chat them up or even interact with them culture, it is mainly there to protect women, the men are being respectful, 90% sure at least half of them have thought of clapping your fuuto cheeks.

ajnabi guys approach me here and there but im not interested because i don’t see a future with them. ive never had a somali guy my age approach me. older somali men will catcall me occasionally but im not interested in 40 year olds

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

they will like it, plus who are you actually interested in? if its one guy in particular try to talk to him

there isn’t a specific one I’m interested in because I don’t know them at all, i just want to consider my options

 

[mohamedismail]

im scared he would think im some ciyaal suuq woman since I’d approach him instead of the other way around. how do i make it known without being direct? do i just talk about class?

Just simple conversations. But if he oversteps boundaries just be direct

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Sis, I would advise you to not approach a guy first, unless you’re in the same class or something. Maybe it’s just me but I wouldn’t like it to be said for posterity that I (the female) was the one who chatted/moved to him first.

i agree with you abaayo i really don’t want to come off as needy or desperate lol, but these somali boys avoid me like the plague. they’re in my uni classes, it’s not just random guys off the street. idk what to do?

 

[cooli3o]

ajnabi guys approach me here and there but im not interested because i don’t see a future with them. ive never had a somali guy my age approach me. older somali men will catcall me occasionally but im not interested in 40 year olds

becayse they are respectful and don't want to talk to somali girls, seem like a weirdo or something.
u have to initiate convo if u want to show them u interested in being friends or whatever

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

becayse they are respectful and don't want to talk to somali girls, seem like a weirdo or something.
u have to initiate convo if u want to show them u interested in being friends or whatever

i get where they’re coming from, but isn’t it weird and beg for the girl to approach the guy?