Marriage

[cooli3o]

One thing I learned is that if a man is interested you he WILL make it known,

men dont want to be called weirdos, a guy will like u and say nothing bc hes waiting to see if ur interested

 

[cooli3o]

see this is where I’m conflicted cause i agree with you, I feel men lose respect for you when you take on their role. I’d like to be approached but it’s just not happening I know im not ugly, im not fat, i have good hygiene, im fairly normal but no somali guys my age talk to m, idk what’s wrong

Muslim men are not going to approach women, the fact they haven't approached you shows how good men they are, they don't approach random somali women and try to shukaansi them, they are avoiding you out of respect, if you want to get to know them you have to make it clear

 

[Rakoon]

Even if a girl expressed interest in me, I'm still so awkward around women
Thank God for my mother she arranged my marriage for me

Alxd my mother saved me from all that pressure of approaching chicks

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I said I’m down you declined

i cant shunkaansi someone on sspot that’s a new low

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Even if a girl expressed interest in me, I'm still so awkward around women
Thank God for my mother she arranged my marriage for me

Alxd my mother saved me from all that pressure of approaching chicks

I might have to get my dad to hook me up too cause I’m hopeless

 

[cooli3o]

i cant shunkaansi someone on sspot that’s a new low

ur a women all u need to do is look pretty and say anything

 

[xxx_newacc]

i agree with you abaayo i really don’t want to come off as needy or desperate lol, but these somali boys avoid me like the plague. they’re in my uni classes, it’s not just random guys off the street. idk what to do?

honestly, focus on putting your studies in a good place & make dua. If you feel you’re ready for marriage, then ask Allah and a good guy will come your way without you moving to them.

 

[Unicorn]

I feel that uni is the best time to meet like minded, ambitious somali guys tho. I wouldn’t get married before graduating though

Yeah now is the time to date. My best friend got lucky she met her hubby during her 3rd year of university and when she graduated she got married a month after. Hope it works for u

 

[Dibleyy]

see this is where I’m conflicted cause i agree with you, I feel men lose respect for you when you take on their role. I’d like to be approached but it’s just not happening I know im not ugly, im not fat, i have good hygiene, im fairly normal but no somali guys my age talk to m, idk what’s wrong

I know how you feel sis it’s hard out here in the west especially if you live in Canada, one thing I found that worked for me a lot of times are finding hobbies.

Idk why but I get hit on the most when I’m the most distracted or busy?

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

honestly, focus on putting your studies in a good place & make dua. If you feel you’re ready for marriage, then ask Allah and a good guy will come your way without you moving to them.

I’ll try that sis it’s just so hard seeing so many people around me getting engaged or married or having shukaansi and im all alone

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Yeah now is the time to date. My best friend got lucky she met her hubby during her 3rd year of university and when she graduated she got married a month after. Hope it works for u

thank you sis, im glad it worked out for your best friend. im also in my third year i hope i find a nice man

 

[cooli3o]

I’ll try that sis it’s just so hard seeing so many people around me getting engaged or married or having shukaansi and im all alone

they probably gonna get divorced anyway don't worry

 

[cooli3o]

I know how you feel sis it’s hard out here in the west especially if you live in Canada, one thing I found that worked for me a lot of times are finding hobbies.

Idk why but I get hit on the most when I’m the most distracted or busy?

probably because the only time you are around men is when you are distracted or busy

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

they probably gonna get divorced anyway don't worry

that’s so reassuring thank you

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

Have a happy, smiling face at all times without looking like a weirdo. Be very approachable and kind. Someone will wife you.

 

[Sophisticate]

Have a happy, smiling face at all times without looking like a weirdo. Be very approachable and kind. Someone will wife you.

I always recommend a scowl without looking constipated, like someone with a bad case of hemorrhoids. Be unapproachable and aloof. Expect your DMs to be populated with tenderhearted Faraxs asking you what happened, assuming the role of armchair therapist. Men love to fix things. Emotional manipulation is the way to their good graces. Expect a ring!

 

[cooli3o]

I always recommend a scowl without looking constipated, like someone with a bad case of hemorrhoids. Be unapproachable and aloof. Expect your DMs to be populated with tenderhearted Faraxs asking you what happened, assuming the role of armchair therapist. Men love to fix things. Emotional manipulation is the way to their good graces. Expect a ring!

are those the kind of guys you want to attract?

 

[Sophisticate]

are those the kind of guys you want to attract?

I don't care to attract. I wish to observe from a comfortable distance.

 

[cooli3o]

I don't care to attract. I wish to observe from a comfortable distance.

well OP wants to attract potential suitors.

 

[Sophisticate]

well OP wants to attract potential suitors.

I was being facetious.

Do you mind giving me some demographic/background information? Age, location, preferences, marriage timeline (ideally) and lifestyle factors?