Marriage

[Yami]

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[cooli3o]

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nah dont do any of that she says she doesnt like anyone yet.

just start by talking to them, dont be too nice bc they will think u like them, just say u want to get to know more somalis, give off a sexual sexually repressed xalimo vibes. when u find ur target man move in for the kill with what yami mentioned

 

[Dashiki Bucaale]

i get where they’re coming from, but isn’t it weird and beg for the girl to approach the guy?

It is

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

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[Yami]

nah dont do any of that she says she doesnt like anyone yet.

just start by talking to them, dont be too nice bc they will think u like them, just say u want to get to know more somalis, give off a sexual sexually repressed xalimo vibes. when u find ur target man move in for the kill with what yami mentioned

Oh I didn't know that. Yeah go with the above @Baarisiyomoos

 

[cooli3o]

Ive had xalimos move to me, I like it more, they did it by just talking to me and showing interest, they waited for me to progress the conversation more

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

It is

so im destined to be a cat lady huh

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

nah dont do any of that she says she doesnt like anyone yet.

just start by talking to them, dont be too nice bc they will think u like them, just say u want to get to know more somalis, give off a sexual sexually repressed xalimo vibes. when u find ur target man move in for the kill with what yami mentioned

okay I’ll try to be causal with it. the thing is when you talk to a somali of the opposite gender it always feels awkward, like you both know each others real intent no matter how subtle you are lol

 

[cooli3o]

so im destined to be a cat lady huh

do what I said, make friends first, make it clear you want to be friends do not be overly nice with anyone, get to know everyone and see if you like anyone, even if you don't its nice to have contacts just in case you want to meet more somali men to marry in the future cos they know alot of guys themselves who they could link you up with

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Ive had xalimos move to me, I like it more, they did it by just talking to me and showing interest, they waited for me to progress the conversation more

i feel like it’s a mannish trait though, like the guy wouldn’t respect me for it

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

do what I said, make friends first, make it clear you want to be friends do not be overly nice with anyone, get to know everyone and see if you like anyone, even if you don't its nice to have contacts just in case you want to meet more somali men to marry in the future cos they know alot of guys themselves who they could link you up with

I’ll try this thanks for the advice, it’s hard to not be overly friendly with other Somalis tho

 

[Basra]

Somali parents want you to stay away from the opposite gender but will ask you when you’re getting married I’m kind of scared I won’t ever get married even though im still young. I’m in a male dominated program at my university where there’s a good chunk of somali guys but none of them ever approach me. I think im somewhat pretty, im not too short or too tall or too fat or too skinny lmao, and i dress well and keep clean. im too shy to go up to them.Do you guys have any advice

Huuno, the male hormones in your body is a BIG obstacle. Ask Hooyo to do an arranged marriage. You are smarter than ALL the male farahs in your university! Twisted isn't it?

 

[cooli3o]

okay I’ll try to be causal with it. the thing is when you talk to a somali of the opposite gender it always feels awkward, like you both know each others real intent no matter how subtle you are lol

wdym?
Most women I talk to are not interested in me and (in the past i dont freemix anymore)had a normal relationship with me, the idea of a relationship would make them cringe, idk wat you mean, if anything its easier for you as a women, us men try to be friends with women but no guy will ever tell u if he finds you attractive he still fantasises about u but he keeps it friendly bc hes a good guy
also guys can tell sometimes when u arent interested as long as u make it clear

 

[cooli3o]

i feel like it’s a mannish trait though, like the guy wouldn’t respect me for it

it doesn't matter what the guy thinks as long as you like him, he will see that your interested and proceed to talk to u, any guy here who says it feels weird and whatever are lying, when it happens to you in real life as a man its so rare they feel abit shocked, but they also get an ego boost and like the fact your making it clear you like him, i hate women who play games

 

[Dibleyy]

Shoot your shot with the guy you like. Trust me contrary to popular belief many guys will actually appreciate it. Don't be too direct but make it known you are interested. This would make guys more comfortable to shoot their shot.

Nope!! Don’t do that!! Bad advice

Most men don’t respect women who pursue them and if you ever get into an argument he’ll say ‘you chose me’

One thing I learned is that if a man is interested you he WILL make it known, you can’t artificially make that happen the same way you can force a woman to.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Huuno, the male hormones in your body is a BIG obstacle. Ask Hooyo to do an arranged marriage. You are smarter than ALL the male farahs in your university! Twisted isn't it?


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thanks for the advice eedo basra

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Nope!! Don’t do that!! Bad advice

Most men don’t respect women who pursue them and if you ever get into an argument he’ll say ‘you chose me’

One thing I learned is that if a man is interested you he WILL make it known, you can’t artificially make that happen the same way you can force a woman to.

see this is where I’m conflicted cause i agree with you, I feel men lose respect for you when you take on their role. I’d like to be approached but it’s just not happening I know im not ugly, im not fat, i have good hygiene, im fairly normal but no somali guys my age talk to m, idk what’s wrong

 

[Khaem]

Nope!! Don’t do that!! Bad advice

Most men don’t respect women who pursue them and if you ever get into an argument he’ll say ‘you chose me’

One thing I learned is that if a man is interested you he WILL make it known, you can’t artificially make that happen the same way you can force a woman to.

Wrong way to look at things. Men do respect a women who show interest in them. We aren't talking about thirst. Simply showing interest and letting the man take it from there is what we are saying.
You don't understand that even if a man is interested he faces much the same dilemma that thise user is facing. Most men don't approach a women because they think it too much. Until they learn to get over it and do it, some sadly don't.

 

[Mj4L]

see this is where I’m conflicted cause i agree with you, I feel men lose respect for you when you take on their role. I’d like to be approached but it’s just not happening I know im not ugly, im not fat, i have good hygiene, im fairly normal but no somali guys my age talk to m, idk what’s wrong

I said I’m down you declined

 

[cooli3o]

Most men don’t respect women who pursue them and if you ever get into an argument he’ll say ‘you chose me’

your confusing men with women, men never do that in debates, its women who bring up irelevant thing from the past to win arguments