Never be the Mr Nice-Guy to a Halimo or your Somali wife

[Sumaaya]

So repetitive and boring wallahi

 

[Juliet]

thread 1000003490573045 on marriage

these kinds of topics trigger people....OP knows what works

 

[Angelina]

It was a photo App called portrait AI.

Just tried the app, it makes everyone look white. It's a no from me.

 

[Sophisticate]

Just tried the app, it makes everyone look white. It's a no from me.

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[XawoTako]

The biggest mistake I see that most men do in relationships is either being too nice, or not nice enough. There is something right in the middle between this two one should aim for.

Letting a woman run your life always ends up in a disaster, women like a men has their owm mind, their own friends, their own life, hobbies and such, sure you can Share these or introduce them to your wife but NEVER give up or cut them off completely.

If you feel the need to do anything your lady likes, all the time, stop.If every day is about her only, you're going to lose real quick.

If she wants you to not hang out with your friends because it cuts into "our" time, don't fall for it, go out with your friends when ever you feel like it, even if she b1tches and moans and acts all mad. So fucking what? You had friends before you met her (Hopefully, and if not get some) and they should be shown some respect too.

If your lady is mad at you, get used to it. Treat her fairly, so you can live with yourself, but that's it. Don't feel if she's mad at you now and then, you're a bad boyfriend/husband. If they're not mad at you now and then, you'll quickly become "boring". Sad but true.

Example?

I know a guy, we'll call him @Grigori Rasputin ,Grigori makes good money for his area, he's attractive, fun, witty, has tons of friends, a great family, and treated his wife like gold. "Happy wife, Happy life" was his motto. So much so he started pushing his friends away for more "her" time.

He bought her whatever she wanted, he stoped going out to wedding parties,Fadhi-Ku-Dirir restaurants,socer tournaments ,Hookah spots and even participating that sessions with the homies because "she didn't want him to go." He stopped being who he was when she met him. He became the ultimate family man, focused entirely on her needs and their future together.

Sounds like the perfect guy? She dumped his ass after 7 years of marriage simply because he was boring to her. Out of the blue, devistated the man who thought he was doing everything right. Sure it's one example, but it's a very common example in my experience.

You CANNOT possibly please your lady all the time, and I told him so,I told him to come and play, to let her get mad if she needed to, because when she met him he was this way, why change what attracted her in the first place? Why let her mold him into something he wasn't?

Grigori now is bitter towards women, Grigori wont date or have anything to do with the opposite sex because he doesn't understand them. He wants to give a woman everything she wants, and hence, he fails at relationships.

Learn from this example. Trust me in this, and I'm sure the Sspot ladies will agree. Be a good man, don't try to be the perfect guy. Have your own likes, and friends. Don't shut her out, but don't shut out everything else either.

Ladies like to change their men, to have something to "work on" about him. It's what they do. Get used to it, don't give in to it. You'll be happier in the long run if you just be you, my 2 cents.

You don't really have to be very nice . As long as you are not narcissistic and egotistical. I hate narcissists with passion

 

[Octavian]

these kinds of topics trigger people....OP knows what works

somalis never learn u will see threads that have unique or interesting topic with barley any responds its like a cat getting tricked by the same lazer into hitting his own head in the wall

 

[Abdisamad]

It was a photo App called portrait AI.

You look like a white woman but there's a hint of somaliness in your look.

 

[Sloane Ranger]

The only woman you should ever be taking orders from is your hooyo. The only woman you should ever be changing for is your own daughter.

Never compromise your priorities for a woman. She'll leave you the next morning .

So you'd only improve as a husband if your daughter complained about how her mother feels?

 

[Abdisamad]

somalis never u will see threads that have unique or interesting topic with barley any responds it like a cat getting tricked by the same lazer to hitting his own head in the wall

 

[Abdisamad]

So you'd only improve as a husband if your daughter complained about how her mother feels?

Actually I would say don't take orders from your mom when it comes to dealing with your wife.. Some mothers are known to ruin peoples marriages.. As a grown man you should take care of your own business and take your own independent decisions.

 

[Juliet]

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Walahi sxb, I have noticed women never leave the side of a man who constanly makes their life miserble, type of man who shatteres their heart into pieces full of disappointments and keep them sad and occpied.

While on the other hand they Will bail out on you if you are less problematic,stable, full of kindness and looks out for them, it is like they enjoy the thrill and rough relationship rather than a boring and predictable one.

In my experience through out the years I have came to a conclusion that girls would slide everything else wrong with you if you are a beast in bed and you get them squared away at night.

Let me tell you something: women who stay in abusive relationships have a psychological disorder in which they believe they are not good enough to be treated well. Its a form of mental illness. Are you seriously suggesting to damage your wife's mental health so she stays with you?

 

[Sophisticate]

You look like a white woman but there's a hint of somaliness in your look.

As long as you can't pick me out from a line up IRL. I'm unbothered.

 

[Juliet]

my uncle treated my aunt like utter shit, and let me tell you, she's far from mentally healthy. If you are a person of morals, you would hate to see your wife in such a state. Bisinka.

 

[Sloane Ranger]

Actually I would say don't take orders from your mom when it comes to dealing with your wife.. Some mothers are known to ruin peoples marriages.. As a grown man you should take care of your own business and take your own independent decisions.

I agree unless its a very severe issue I'd never complain about my husband to others. The thing is I will be able to forgive him and move forward but my family might start to think that I'm married to a terrible husband.

Its important to foster good relations with your spouse and relatives and avoid anything that can sour their relationship.

 

[Abdisamad]

As long as you can't pick me out from a line up IRL. I'm unbothered.

I could recognize you by your long qalanjo neck in the crowd if I saw you in real life .. But that will never happen since we live a world apart so no worries

 

[Abdisamad]

Let me tell you something: women who stay in abusive relationships have a psychological disorder in which they believe they are not good enough to be treated well. Its a form of mental illness. Are you seriously suggesting to damage your wife's mental health so she stays with you?

Thats horrible

I know this guy who was beating his wife while she was 6-7 months pregnant, but she chose to stay with him. He was such a control freak and he was also talking to other women while married to her. Every year he would visit once impregnate her and then his gone afterwards. How can a woman love such a guy.. It's a mystery.

 

[Sophisticate]

I could recognize you by your long qalanjo neck in the crowd if I saw you in real life .. But that will never happen since we live a world apart so no worries

I'll wear a turtle neck.

 

[Angelina]

Thats horrible

I know this guy who was beating his wife while she was 6-7 months pregnant, but she chose to stay with him. He was such a control freak and he was also talking to other women while married to her. Every year he would visit once impregnate her and then his gone afterwards. How can a woman love such a guy.. It's a mystery.

I don't think it's just love. The human mind is fragile and usually those types of men emotionally abuse and manipulate their partners before physically abusing them. They also make sure to make their wives isolated so that family and friends cannot get involved or give the wife real advice or support. Imagine being mentally broken and not a lot of people supporting you, because your husband stopped you from seeing them? That is the life some women lead.

Also, some husbands are genuinely dangerous, in the UK two women are murdered by their husbands and boyfriends every week and that is usually after tthey have left their spouse.

 

[Abdisamad]

I don't think it's just love. The human mind is fragile and usually those types of men emotionally abuse and manipulate their partners before physically abusing them. They also make sure to make their wives isolated so that family and friends cannot get involved or give the wife real advice or support. Imagine being mentally broken and not a lot of people supporting you, because your husband stopped you from seeing them? That is the life some women lead.

Also, some husbands are genuinely dangerous, in the UK two women are murdered by their husbands and boyfriends every week and that is usually after tthey have left their spouse.

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[Abdisamad]

I'll wear a turtle neck.

As I said don't worry I'm stuck in the Scandinavian snow

But if you sponsored me though. We gonna melt the poles