Shaax Corner's Advice Thread.

[Gambar]

They also gossip a lot and spend a lot of time on the phone doing just that. I'd more than the young girls these days. wassup with that? I had always imagined that once they reach their 40s, they become disinterested in trivial things like gossiping, and the tragedy mentioned above.

Not all, it's the ones who insist they are "reer magal" and not like most Somali women lakiin waxay isku daldalaan xalwo, buskuut, etc. on the phone gossiping about peoples children but insist their sons are in KSA in an elite Quran program but everyone knows they're in prison. They talk crap about the struggling Somali mom trying to do her best but their children are a garden variety of failures.

 

[arawelo 2.0]

They also gossip a lot and spend a lot of time on the phone doing just that. I'd more than the young girls these days. wassup with that? I had always imagined that once they reach their 40s, they become disinterested in trivial things like gossiping, and the tragedy mentioned above.

A lot of these Somali middle aged woman act like dhocilo yar yar. I'm convinced they are trying to live a childhood they never had.

why are you guys overlooking the old fucker who created this whole mess?

who the hell marries the mother of their daughter in law? I'm sure he isn't dumb enough to think that he can just do that and everything would be good. her mother is also a fucking home wrecker, and on top of that she had no regards for how her messed up marriage would destroy her daughter's family.

this is on the old man and to a lesser extent, the girls mother. they both fucked up and destroyed their kids marriage in the process.

 

[Ferrari]

Not all, it's the ones who insist they are "reer magal" and not like most Somali women lakiin waxay isku daldalaan xalwo, buskuut, etc. on the phone gossiping about peoples children but insist their sons are in KSA in an elite Quran program but everyone knows they're in prison. They talk crap about the struggling Somali mom trying to do her best but their children are a garden variety of failures.

I wonder how different yall new generation are going to be? We'll find out soon.

Somali diet is a mess. There're already too much carbs, and then they have xalwad and other sweets. Where the hell are we headed?

 

[Gambar]

why are you guys overlooking the old fucker who created this whole mess?

who the hell marries the mother of their daughter in law? I'm sure he isn't dumb enough to think that he can just do that and everything would be good. her mother is also a fucking home wrecker, and on top of that she had no regards for how her messed up marriage would destroy her daughter's family.

this is on the old man and to a lesser extent, the girls mother. they both fucked up and destroyed their kids marriage in the process.

I was replying to @Adolf-Hitler post.
This whole situation is disgusting. Who goes after his own sons soddoh when he is already married too?

 

[Ferrari]

why are you guys overlooking the old fucker who created this whole mess?

who the hell marries the mother of their daughter in law? I'm sure he isn't dumb enough to think that he can just do that and everything would be good. her mother is also a fucking home wrecker, and on top of that she had no regards for how her messed up marriage would destroy her daughter's family.

this is on the old man and to a lesser extent, the girls mother. they both fucked up and destroyed their kids marriage in the process.

Dude is to blame just as much but her mother, having raise children as a single mother, she should've thought about what her actions would mean for her daughter's marriage. She had more to lose than the old head.

 

[Gambar]

I wonder how different yall new generation are going to be? We'll find out soon.

Somali diet is a mess. There're already too much carbs, and then they have xalwad and other sweets. Where the hell are we headed?

I think the next generation will be a better idea of where are we headed because we are the generation who were children during the the civil war so we are attached to that and we are kind of lost in between the west and back home. Nobody thought we would be a diaspora.

 

[Ferrari]

I think the next generation will be a better idea of where are we headed because we are the generation who were children during the the civil war so we are attached to that and we are kind of lost in between the west and back home. Nobody thought we would be a diaspora.

I honestly think not much will change. It's more of a cultural thing than it is a generational thing. That's why it happens despite environment, i.e, those in europe do it as much as the ones from North America.

 

[Gambar]

I honestly think not much will change. It's more of a cultural thing than it is a generational thing. That's why it happens despite environment, i.e, those in europe do it as much as the ones from North America.

I think it will change. Many Somalis are professionals with their own families and instill Muslim values in their children. I saw a lot of western children going back to see their homeland. The caasis of the community are going to be a minority you'll see. I hope the government of Somalia gets an extreme overhaul and things change for the better.

 

[RedStar]

#ANONYMOUSPOST

So where do I begin. My marriage is falling apart for something I had nothing to do with.

I've met my husband in college and we dated all throughout the years till we finished university and we felt that we were ready to settle down and build a family.

I was raised by a single mother. My mother is the rock that keeps me grounded and she is never too busy and drops everything she has in her hands when I call out to her. She has raised me into the woman I am. My father has walked out on us when I was little after they had divorced and I had always wanted to meet him to at least one day talk about why he didn't want to be in my life and see if there is ever a chance of him changing but time never gave me that chance and he has passed away when I was around the age of 10.

My mother not only takes care of me and my two siblings but also looks after herself she does not look a year older than 30 and her body looks better than mine. I'm proud that she is not those typical somali mother who when they hit 40 say they are old and just stop bothering to look good or dress good.

When husbands family came to ask for my hand things went smoothly and my father in law and my mother got along well I could see my mother in law giving her the side eye but I didn't make much of it.

My father in law is business man so he sent my mother and I to dubai to shop and buy dahab for me as a wedding gift and also gave my mother few thousands to also spend on herself. My initial thought was how generous of him and when we came back my wedding took place after a couple of months.

My husband and I came back from our honeymoon and my mother in law just started to give me the silence treatment i never understood what I had done to her. My husband loves his mother as much as I love mine so both of us are close with their moms. We asked what's going on and she said my mother is flirting with her husband. My mother is never the type to chase she is always the chasee never the chaser. I has spoken to my mom and she told me how my father in law is the one who is giving her all these things and always calling and texting her to find out how she is doing. And she said how caring he is. She never even thought he was interested in her that way so she said she will try and keep it to a minimum.

My mother in law however isn't willing to let things go and keeps pointing fingers at my mother calling her a home wrecker and every name under the sun we have had few fights and now time have passed since we last spoke.

When I had my first baby and I fell right into postpartum depression and my pregnancy wasn't the easiest I must add.

Now my mother is saying since this woman is accusing me of being a home wrecker I will show her what a home wrecker looks like. Now she is married to my father in law and everyone in the family is blaming the next person.

I explained to my husband I have nothing to do with all this but he chooses to take his mothers side. Considering what my mother in law has called my mother I don't blame her for taking revenge this way. But the least I expected from him was to be understanding to me and my situation especially since I've just recovered from postpartum depression.

My father in law is saying he is allowed four and if my mother in law can't accept that then he is going to leave her for my mother.

Last week we were arguing and in the middle of it he said marrying me was the worst mistake he made. He said he would also remarry to give me a taste of what his mother is feeling. I don't know why I have to pay the prize of what out parents decide to do with their lives. I can't control my mother and I would chose her happiness over mine. If he makes her happy then I would rather suffer for it. She has been alone far too long and if this is her happy ending who am I to stand in the way.

I am not scared of asking for a divorce and being a single mother. I was raised by one and it's the least scary thing to me. I just don't want to loose the man I love for all this petty fights between our parents.

Holy shit! Are you even allowed to marry your son/daughter's mother in law in Islam?

That makes married couple step-siblings and their own kid is their niece/nephew

 

[Ferrari]

I think it will change. Many Somalis are professionals with their own families and instill Muslim values in their children. I saw a lot of western children going back to see their homeland. The caasis of the community are going to be a minority you'll see. I hope the government of Somalia gets an extreme overhaul and things change for the better.

Who is going to change the government tho? All the diaspora returnees end up joining the mess to create a further mess. Let's just live through it and find out.

 

[Ruqiya]

Holy shit! Are you even allowed to marry your son/daughter's mother in law in Islam?

That makes married couple step-siblings and their own kid is their niece/nephew

No its not allowed. What these two parents are doing is haram. Waa habar iyo oday bilaa akhlaaq iyo bilaa xishood ah.

 

[GeKo]

1) THIS IS INCEST and HARAM!!!, How can they marry the newly marrried couple will then be step siblings
2) no man would spend on thousands on a woman and call/text unless he has a motive which the stepmom recognized right away from the get-go.
3) Her mum knew from the start that he had an interest in her and she's playing dumb

4) No person marries someone to prove a point

5) Good storytelling skills and the group should be renamed shuban corner coz its all bs

 

[Ferrari]

Holy shit! Are you even allowed to marry your son/daughter's mother in law in Islam?

That makes married couple step-siblings and their own kid is their niece/nephew

didn't even think about this. So the old couple's kids are going to be the siblings of the new couple(the girl from her mom's side, and the guy from his dad's side). The new babies would have a brother and a sister that are married to each other pretty much. And they would be uncles and aunties to the babies of the younger couple. But how would a girl that the old couple have decide what she is to a baby that the new couple have? She'd be both a habaryar or an eedo because she's related to the girl and the guy.

 

[Gambar]

Who is going to change the government tho? All the diaspora returnees end up joining the mess to create a further mess. Let's just live through it and find out.

Hopefully there will be a youth uprising to take over and tell these illiterates to sit down. Xildibaan iyo fataad iyo fatuudba wax uun bey qaseeyaan. Kids from Abaarso would be perfect to take over Somaliland for example.

 

[RedStar]

didn't even think about this. So the old couple's kids are going to be the siblings of the new couple(the girl from her mom's side, and the guy from his dad's side). The new babies would have a brother and a sister that are married to each other pretty much. And they would be uncles and aunties to the babies of the younger couple. But how would a girl that the old couple have decide what she is to a baby that the new couple have? She'd be both a habaryar or an eedo because she's related to the girl and the guy.

The child of the old couple would be a brother/sister in law and a biological sibling to the new couple

 

[Ferrari]

Hopefully there will be a youth uprising to take over and tell these illiterates to sit down. Xildibaan iyo fataad iyo fatuudba wax uun bey qaseeyaan. Kids from Abaarso would be perfect to take over Somaliland for example.

Somali people aren't known for revolutions tho. I've never seen people back home revolt even when they are being put to the sword. If there was ever a time to say enough and rise up, it'd be now. People back home are stuck in between terrorists and pupets who consider them collateral damage at best. But, they'll keep taking the beating until illiterate generation dies out. Even then, having an education doesn't guarantee success or better future. Things look bleak but we've got to keep our heads up I guess.

 

[Canuck]

Hopefully there will be a youth uprising to take over and tell these illiterates to sit down. Xildibaan iyo fataad iyo fatuudba wax uun bey qaseeyaan. Kids from Abaarso would be perfect to take over Somaliland for example.

The youth joined al shabab out of despair, kind of revolution at the corruption of old generation.

 

[Hemaal]

#ANONYMOUSPOST

So where do I begin. My marriage is falling apart for something I had nothing to do with.

I've met my husband in college and we dated all throughout the years till we finished university and we felt that we were ready to settle down and build a family.

I was raised by a single mother. My mother is the rock that keeps me grounded and she is never too busy and drops everything she has in her hands when I call out to her. She has raised me into the woman I am. My father has walked out on us when I was little after they had divorced and I had always wanted to meet him to at least one day talk about why he didn't want to be in my life and see if there is ever a chance of him changing but time never gave me that chance and he has passed away when I was around the age of 10.

My mother not only takes care of me and my two siblings but also looks after herself she does not look a year older than 30 and her body looks better than mine. I'm proud that she is not those typical somali mother who when they hit 40 say they are old and just stop bothering to look good or dress good.

When husbands family came to ask for my hand things went smoothly and my father in law and my mother got along well I could see my mother in law giving her the side eye but I didn't make much of it.

My father in law is business man so he sent my mother and I to dubai to shop and buy dahab for me as a wedding gift and also gave my mother few thousands to also spend on herself. My initial thought was how generous of him and when we came back my wedding took place after a couple of months.

My husband and I came back from our honeymoon and my mother in law just started to give me the silence treatment i never understood what I had done to her. My husband loves his mother as much as I love mine so both of us are close with their moms. We asked what's going on and she said my mother is flirting with her husband. My mother is never the type to chase she is always the chasee never the chaser. I has spoken to my mom and she told me how my father in law is the one who is giving her all these things and always calling and texting her to find out how she is doing. And she said how caring he is. She never even thought he was interested in her that way so she said she will try and keep it to a minimum.

My mother in law however isn't willing to let things go and keeps pointing fingers at my mother calling her a home wrecker and every name under the sun we have had few fights and now time have passed since we last spoke.

When I had my first baby and I fell right into postpartum depression and my pregnancy wasn't the easiest I must add.

Now my mother is saying since this woman is accusing me of being a home wrecker I will show her what a home wrecker looks like. Now she is married to my father in law and everyone in the family is blaming the next person.

I explained to my husband I have nothing to do with all this but he chooses to take his mothers side. Considering what my mother in law has called my mother I don't blame her for taking revenge this way. But the least I expected from him was to be understanding to me and my situation especially since I've just recovered from postpartum depression.

My father in law is saying he is allowed four and if my mother in law can't accept that then he is going to leave her for my mother.

Last week we were arguing and in the middle of it he said marrying me was the worst mistake he made. He said he would also remarry to give me a taste of what his mother is feeling. I don't know why I have to pay the prize of what out parents decide to do with their lives. I can't control my mother and I would chose her happiness over mine. If he makes her happy then I would rather suffer for it. She has been alone far too long and if this is her happy ending who am I to stand in the way.

I am not scared of asking for a divorce and being a single mother. I was raised by one and it's the least scary thing to me. I just don't want to loose the man I love for all this petty fights between our parents.

Didn't even knew it was allowed in Islam. Because of the mother-in-laws do most somali marriages end up in divorce, nothing new

 

[NaomiHoney]

#ANONYMOUSPOST

After losing my first husband to an illness, my one year old daughter and I barely had much since all our money was spent on his medication. I started selling baati to make ends meet, my daughter became my world and we overcame our loss together.
I married my second husband two years later. He was nice, kind and romantic and all those good qualities that as a woman I would appreciate but he couldn't stand my daughter. As a mother, I couldn't stand that! We would always argue about this until it led to our first divorce. After sometime, he come back promising to be a good dad to my daughter and I agreed to give him a second chance.
The morning that my daughter died, I still remember it clearly. I woke up early to buy beer(not qamro) and hilib, a welcome back breakfast for my husband and also to enjoy it together as a family. I was nearing our house when I saw my neighbours screaming and crying holding my daughter breathing her last. She had turned blue, her face swollen, blood all over her clothes. I wouldn't have believed it was my daughter but those women were crying 'gawadhada sumayo weey dimanosaa' . My neighbours told me my daughter was crying loudly when I left and since the door was locked, they went to the window to check what was wrong and saw my husband hold my little girl by her leg and banged her head almost everywhere in our house. He then choked her and strangled her to stop her from screaming but ran away when he saw she could no longer cry and was dying.
He was arrested but his qabil raised money for him and is currently out. He told me I didn't look remorseful after our first divorce so he came back to destroy the thing that was keeping me and him apart. He also gave me the remaining two divorce. In a world that money rules, only Allah can bring me justice. Also, no matter how much I would want to see him rot in prison, the fact that my daughter is gone forever remains. Reality is stranger than fiction so when you are in a difficult situation, only then will you understand why you have to do certain things.

The real problem though, is that I am one month pregnant with this man's child now. I know that I should think of this baby as a replacement of my dead daughter but no matter how I look at it, I can't help but think of it as the baby of my daughter's murderer. I want to abort it. Please tell me your opinions about this baby. Should I keep it or kill it? I also know it is innocent but will it be worth it in the long run?... I have always heard 'Calaf aa lacunaa' but my calaaf right now is one I find too hard to swallow.

 

[Transparent]

#ANONYMOUSPOST

After losing my first husband to an illness, my one year old daughter and I barely had much since all our money was spent on his medication. I started selling baati to make ends meet, my daughter became my world and we overcame our loss together.
I married my second husband two years later. He was nice, kind and romantic and all those good qualities that as a woman I would appreciate but he couldn't stand my daughter. As a mother, I couldn't stand that! We would always argue about this until it led to our first divorce. After sometime, he come back promising to be a good dad to my daughter and I agreed to give him a second chance.
The morning that my daughter died, I still remember it clearly. I woke up early to buy beer(not qamro) and hilib, a welcome back breakfast for my husband and also to enjoy it together as a family. I was nearing our house when I saw my neighbours screaming and crying holding my daughter breathing her last. She had turned blue, her face swollen, blood all over her clothes. I wouldn't have believed it was my daughter but those women were crying 'gawadhada sumayo weey dimanosaa' . My neighbours told me my daughter was crying loudly when I left and since the door was locked, they went to the window to check what was wrong and saw my husband hold my little girl by her leg and banged her head almost everywhere in our house. He then choked her and strangled her to stop her from screaming but ran away when he saw she could no longer cry and was dying.
He was arrested but his qabil raised money for him and is currently out. He told me I didn't look remorseful after our first divorce so he came back to destroy the thing that was keeping me and him apart. He also gave me the remaining two divorce. In a world that money rules, only Allah can bring me justice. Also, no matter how much I would r only want to see him rot in prison, the fact that my daughter is gone forever remains. Reality is stranger than fiction so when you are in a difficult situation, only then will you understand why you have to do certain things.

The real problem though, is that I am one month pregnant with this man's child now. I know that I should think of this baby as a replacement of my dead daughter but no matter how I look at it, I can't help but think of it as the baby of my daughter's murderer. I want to abort it. Please tell me your opinions about this baby. Should I keep it or kill it? I also know it is innocent but will it be worth it in the long run?... I have always heard 'Calaf aa lacunaa' but my calaaf right now is one I find too hard to swallow.

This is deep.I would recommend that you keep your baby because it will be your only hope in life and could be a fresh start.I suggest to go to a counsellor or something because this is really unfortunate predicament.And to all my beloved xalimos out there,dont marry psychos