I agree ! People don’t believe me when I say being light skin you get chosen real quick! But they always tell me it’s Calaaf and Qadr which I agree but I always wonder how all of the light skin girls I know are getting married and some even going for a second marriage! As a dark skin girl I would get told your pretty for a dark skin girl! Or you have « jiniyaad ; not sure if I wrote well » but they would never tell me out right am beautiful like my light friends I always thought it was weird. You know the irony of all of this I would always get hit on my cadaan men looool like always! And Ofcourse madow men but never Somali men. Anyways, to conclude you better only have eyes, nose, and a mouth if your dark skin! No flaws in order to be deemed beautiful! It’s sad but whatever…..Your mom connecting you with lighter women is a clear example of that. In Somalia even women bleach to get a higher chance at marriage. More men will be interested in them. Ofc I’m against skin bleaching, but watching videos helped me understand why they do it. There is even a saying in Somalia that only darker skin and night time is dumb. Basically insinuating dark skin is bad. It upsets me. I even see diaspora somali men being influenced by this saying they want to marry a lighter skinned somali women back home. They never go for women their own colour or darker.