if your husband said he wants to marry a 2nd wife would you let him, im guessing you won't oppose something Allah made halal
Yes I would let him but I will ask for a divorce.
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Yes I would let him but I will ask for a divorce.
Technically that's not a good enough reason for divorce. In an Islamic country that won't hold up in court.
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Technically that's not a good enough reason for divorce. In an Islamic country that won't hold up in court.
In sharia a woman doesn't need to have a good reason for divorce. You're not obliged to hang your dirty laundry in public. Sheikhs can only give advice for things you voluntarily entrust them with or break the law but divorce isn't haram.
Technically that's not a good enough reason for divorce. In an Islamic country that won't hold up in court.
Erm excuse me? Women aren't obligated to stay in a polygamous marriage. It's not fard. It's an option. Same reason men have the option to marry more than one, it's not a privilege.
waraabe
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You half negro. Ceeb
Under Sharia law asking for a divorce because of the husband taking a second wife is not a valid reason.
It's within the mans right to take another wife and he doesn't need to ask permission so long as he can fulfill the rights of both wives. This is why marriage in the west is a joke.
What's so funny?
How is it fair to make a woman stay in a marriage that might affect her emotional well being and even her imaan? Don't look at it just from the financial aspect.
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It's not meant to be easy but it's within his rights. What's more important than your "emotional well being" (read kibir) is the stability of the home and the children being raised by both parents equally. Do you also know that under Sharia law the father has the right to custody of the child? It's not even a question.
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SHAAHSHAAHSHAAH.
lol @ mudug being south
No it doesn't it.
Then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.>> [Soorah an-Nisa:3]
It's actually preferred to marry more. The Prophet had the most wives and he advised the Muslims to marry more wives so as to increase the numbers of his Ummah.
Notice in the Qur'an Allah starts with 2? Not 1 right?
"Then marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four."
All I know is women have rights too and just because he is allowed to marry 4 it doesn't mean she has to stick around. I don't think you understand or even appreciate the emotional turmoil a woman in a polygamous marriage experiences because you just look at things as black and white. There is a reason why the Prophet SAW emphasised treating women kindly during his last sermon.
What's more important keeping up a farce of a marriage in which the wife is so emotionally distraught that she barely functions that every day is a struggle or separating and she is able to maintain her emotional well being and take care of her kids too?
Daughters can stay with the mother until they are older and I also know that if they are being breastfed they can stay in the care of their mother.
Imagine using polygamy as a reason to ask for a divorce. Something that was made permissible by the Allah and the Prophet encouraged.
It hasn't got any thing to do with kibir, if my husband is off 3 days a week sleeping with another woman you don't expect me to feel some type of way about that?
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For no reason @Sayid Gurey NO reason.
"That is nearer to prevent you from doing misjustice" @Magan Your attitude tells me that you're closer to the men who'll walk around twisted in one side of their bodies on Judgement Day than the example of Rasuulka (saw).
"That is nearer to prevent you from doing misjustice" @Magan Your attitude tells me that you're closer to the men who'll walk around twisted in one side of their bodies on Judgement Day than the example of Rasuulka (saw).
Listen the fact that you're raised in the west is the reason you are this emotional about polygamy. Women by nature will feel jealous that's not the problem it's the fact that you have been brainwashed. This is our culture, our deen, and disliking polygamy is something serious.
It's natural to feel that way but the women before you went through the same thing. It's something that was made permissible for your husband and you have to be patient. It's much better than asking for a divorce and in the heat of things you will most likely compromise and keep your family together for the kids at the very least.
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