Somali woman rant's on about Intermarriage: ''Stick to your own blood''

[canjeeroiyoshah]

For no reason @Sayid Gurey NO reason.

"That is nearer to prevent you from doing misjustice" @Magan Your attitude tells me that you're closer to the men who'll walk around twisted in one side of their bodies on Judgement Day than the example of Rasuulka (saw).

If a man is able to provide financially and treat his wives equally it is preferred for him to take more wives. You do understand this right? Stop being hard headed there's nothing to debate about.

 

[madamelioness]

Listen the fact that you're raised in the west is the reason you are this emotional about polygamy. Women by nature will feel jealous that's not the problem it's the fact that you have been brainwashed. This is our culture, our deen, and disliking polygamy is something serious.

Please don't play that card with me. I know it is permissible and I understand why but I also know I don't have to participate in it.

Polygamy isn't as easy as you make it and it isn't also just about the man's desires. It has a higher purpose and many folks with your mindset taint the practice.

 

[Hubble]

So what if it's permissible for him. It's not wajib for a woman to accept it for herself. We can't judge those who do but women don't have to live with it. The West did not just suddenly give us feelings gthoh

 

[canjeeroiyoshah]

Please don't play that card with me. I know it is permissible and I understand why but I also know I don't have to participate in it.

Polygamy isn't as easy as you make it and it isn't also just about the man's desires. It has a higher purpose and many folks with your mindset taint the practice.

There's many reasons why it is halal. A man can like another women and for that reason alone he can take a second wife. You do understand this right? Men and women are not created the same. Our desires are not the same.

I understand it's hard and I'm not trying to get on your nerves just speaking facts.

 

[Hubble]

Its not just about money. Btw to marry two means double the average income, three thrice the average income. You also have to be emotionally available to all equally. You can't buy gifts which cost more and all the children have to have equal rights too. For that to happen your wife has to be happy in the marriage. You can't have tricked her into that situation.

 

[canjeeroiyoshah]

Its not just about money. Btw to marry two means double the average income, three thrice the average income. You also have to be emotionally available to all equally. You can't buy gifts which cost more and all the children have to have equal rights too. For that to happen your wife has to be happy in the marriage. You can't have tricked her into that situation.

In Somalia this is very easy. My family has been practicing polygamy for ages and it's a beautiful thing. Stop being selfish and you'll understand one day what I mean.

 

[Hubble]

Its not easy. So many people don't talk to their half siblings. I don't know of anyone who's in a good relationship with their half siblings or half aunts and uncles.

 

[ironclad urchin]

Somali girls marry low scum men from other races.

Somali guys on the rare occasion that they do marry out tend to go for higher quality.

Just a thing I noticed.

i bet this helps you sleep at night

 

[madamelioness]

There's many reasons why it is halal. A man can like another women and for that reason alone he can take a second wife. You do understand this right? Men and women are not created the same. Our desires are not the same.

I understand it's hard and I'm not trying to get on your nerves just speaking facts.

I don't think it's practiced correctly nowadays and it's also initiated under dubious means.

Yes, men have desires. So do women. Women desire to be the only wife. How many women do you know that are willing to share their husbands? That's our nature and that's how Allah has created us and to deny that very fact and accuse us of being westernized or brainwashed is unjust.

I understand some women have high imaan and they are able to do it but I have heard stories of many women who have been left broken because of this ordeal. It's not just as the pretty picture you paint it as.

 

[Hubble]

The horrible thing is when men don't ask before the nikaax. They might be surprised because some women only want children and upkeep from a man. These ladies are sometimes happy when he marries another woman because it's more freedom for her. But to impose this after marriage is fraud.

 

[canjeeroiyoshah]

I don't think it's practiced correctly nowadays and it's also initiated under dubious means.

Yes, men have desires. So do women. Women desire to be the only wife. How many women do you know that are willing to share their husbands? That's our nature and that's how Allah has created us and to deny that very fact and accuse us of being westernized or brainwashed is unjust.

I understand some women have high imaan and they are able to do it but I have heard stories of many women who have been left broken because of this ordeal. It's not just as the pretty picture you paint it as.

I don't disagree with anything you said albeit it's not as bad as you make it out to be. The moment this topic is brought up women are quick to become defensive as if we're taking away a right which is not the case. Try to be a little more positive next time.

I myself don't think I'll end up with more than one but that won't stop me from speaking facts.

 

[canjeeroiyoshah]

The horrible thing is when men don't ask before the nikaax. They might be surprised because some women only want children and upkeep from a man. These ladies are sometimes happy when he marries another woman because it's more freedom for her. But to impose this after marriage is fraud.

I agree that it should be discussed before marriage.

 

[Hubble]

I agree that it should be discussed before marriage.

There's nothing wrong in that case. Who'd disagree what's been decided in total equity? No one should have an issue with that unless they're islamophobic.

 

[angrycat]

Who cares? Just because youre somali, doesnt give you a say in what random somalis do. Their lives their choices. let them marry jinn if they want maxaa ka galey

 

[yas/London]

Somali girls marry low scum men from other races.

Somali guys on the rare occasion that they do marry out tend to go for higher quality.

Just a thing I noticed.

 

[Hubble]

She's cute and smart.

 

[yas/London]

 

[yas/London]

 

[angrycat]

That's poor reasoning. Why aren't Syrian women marrying foreigners or Iraqi women or even Palestinian women? They stick to their own for the most part. Despite the short-comings of Somali men they are far better than an Arab or a Jamaican or Pakistani or a Turk.

somali women mainly marry somali men too. I'm not sure why because of a few cases of somali/jamaican or white marriages, suddenly this most somali women. seriously, name all the somali couples you know at hand, and then name all the ones who marry out.

 

[AceofSom]

Most girls who marry ajanabi have self esteem issues.