To the guys here, how do you stop your woman from complaining?

[NotMyL]

It sounds to me like your wife just had a baby and she’s not herself, give her some slack and be more supportive. Men really need to be taking classes on what having a baby does to a woman, just because older generations used to keep all their sadness in doesn’t mean we should do the same.

 

[AhmedSmelly]

You are right to talk about community. I can’t remember which cheikh gave a speech about the power of community and how before women were never alone so they always had someone to help them out but in the west they are alone. Socializing when you have a baby is hard. men go to work and meet people. But back home you have your community. Also warya @Inquisitive_ We are not weak but pregnancy can change the hormonal balance that’s why I suggested portpartum depression. Your comment was spot on except for the last part.

If there is anyone who is right in here. It is @Saredo . The complaining part is a way of human connection. When She has no one to talk to, you become her only partner.

Unfortunately that shows you @Dino , how weak of a character she is. Tell her to get some friends to talk to. Because you aint no . Remember tho, if you are tired of her. There is some form of communication in prostitution. Plus she gets paid. You are happy, she is happy and no more complaining.

I feel like I overstepped with my trolling

But All honesty, I have a craving for a second rate depressed somali pussy.

Yes I am disgusted by myself, but smashing a talkative second rate depressed somali pussy. Makes my Kacsi uncontrollable.

 

[Céleste]

You know I dislike Somali trolls, but I really really hate Somalis who help other Somalis without being in the Same Qabil.

Trolling aside. Unfortunately, I can see through your evil manipulations. Trying to seduce @Dino with kindness and helpful words. Somalis are not known for that. You have ulterior motives, you want him as your husband. Giving him a source to back up your claims, just to be more close to him. Telling him not to search for a second wife, so he can see you as an option.

my analyzing skills are on point. Manshallah

how did you even manage to come up with that? Subxanallah

helping out someone is flirting?

 

[VixR]

I don’t understand why male users on here insist on being so willfully foul. Did you have no upbringing?

 

[Omar del Sur]

You only use Islam when it favours you I know your type the dirty ex-con revert.

You need to repent and you need to apologize to me. I am entitled to an apology from you. You owe it.

You remind me of the Jews- you have this wonderful spiritual heritage and then you betray it. If you are born into a Muslim family and you treat the religion as a joke and a revert isn't born into it yet takes it more seriously it may be that the revert is better than you.

Also, you don't "know my type" at all. You lost an argument so you used some insults.

I've never been to jail or to prison, much less did I learn about Islam behind bars or anything like that.

 

[CaliTedesse]

You need to repent and you need to apologize to me. I am entitled to an apology from you. You owe it.

You remind me of the Jews- you have this wonderful spiritual heritage and then you betray it. If you are born into a Muslim family and you treat the religion as a joke and a revert isn't born into it yet takes it more seriously it may be that the revert is better than you.

Also, you don't "know my type" at all. You lost an argument so you used some insults.

I've never been to jail or to prison, much less did I learn about Islam behind bars or anything like that.

Haye

 

[Gambar]

Based on the simple example you cited you are the wrongdoer, because you didn't read between the lines.

She was looking for empathy in that statement and instead of giving it to her you decided to minimise and create an argument were there was none.

Back home her mother, aunt and several relatives help her out so she can get good sleep and rest, but in the individualistic west they are alone despite being inherently weaker then those back home due to environment and upbringing.

Your expecting to much from her, if your unable to give her the weekends to recuperate, de-stress and rest, then find another solution to give her a break every weekend or help midweek, you need family to help out.

If this is the kind of incessant complaints your referring to then I hate to say it but @VixR is right, disregard my previous post as it will only make things worse for you, because your problems are different and of your own making.

Don't expect a 21st century pampered diaspora female to have the same strong spirit and fortitude as you, there is a reason you are made stronger in every facet because your allowed 4.

Wow mashallah you are the only one talking sense.

 

[AhmedSmelly]

I don’t understand why male users on here insist on being so foul. Did you have no upbringing?

Low emotional control, when your testosterone is in its peak. Everything about a women becomes sexualised. Even her depression. Some people love trolling and being negative. While others just outright make sexual innuendoes. Even if its other peoples wife. Sorry that I am not myself today.




@B-is-the-code

 

[Dino]

i do that whenever i can. she is no longer breat feeding. the baby takes the bottle now.

listen people can have bad days. its not that. its the constant complaining that is tiring. it is soul sucking.

Based on the simple example you cited you are the wrongdoer, because you didn't read between the lines.

She was looking for empathy in that statement and instead of giving it to her you decided to minimise and create an argument were there was none.

Back home her mother, aunt and several relatives help her out so she can get good sleep and rest, but in the individualistic west they are alone despite being inherently weaker then those back home due to environment and upbringing.

Your expecting to much from her, if your unable to give her the weekends to recuperate, de-stress and rest, then find another solution to give her a break every weekend or help midweek, you need family to help out.

If this is the kind of incessant complaints your referring to then I hate to say it but @VixR is right, disregard my previous post as it will only make things worse for you, because your problems are different and of your own making.

Don't expect a 21st century pampered diaspora female to have the same strong spirit and fortitude as you, there is a reason you are made stronger in every facet because your allowed 4.

Bro, i spent an hour trying to cheer her up. A whole hour. I listened until she finished then i sympathised. Then i tried cheering her up. Then i tried to help by saying i will take the baby of your hands now and go get some rest. Nothing worked. She will complain about something else.

Its why i am here. I dont like to air these things on a forum. Even though ss forumers here like to help a somali including the most immature fellas. I am here because i ran out of options.

 

[B-is-the-code]

Low emotional control, when your testosterone is in its peak. Everything about a women becomes sexualised. Even her depression. Some people love trolling and being negative. While others just outright make sexual innuendoes. Even if its other peoples wife. Sorry that I am not myself today.




@B-is-the-code

This @VixR is feminist lesbo who hates men. Ignore this qashin bih

 

[Omar del Sur]

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever has wronged his brother with regard to his honour or anything else, let him seek his forgiveness today, before there will be no dinar and no dirham, and if he has any good deeds to his credit they will be taken from him in a manner commensurate with the wrong he did, and if he has no good deeds, then some of his counterpart’s bad deeds will be taken and added to his burden.” [al-Bukhaari].

 

[CaliTedesse]

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever has wronged his brother with regard to his honour or anything else, let him seek his forgiveness today, before there will be no dinar and no dirham, and if he has any good deeds to his credit they will be taken from him in a manner commensurate with the wrong he did, and if he has no good deeds, then some of his counterpart’s bad deeds will be taken and added to his burden.” [al-Bukhaari].

Haye

 

[AhmedSmelly]

This @VixR is feminist lesbo who hates men. Ignore this qashin bih

Why was I not warned!!!!. I knew there was something wrong with that girl. She smelled funny. Her nether parts, had an intense fish stench. Subhanallah. Kick the Qaanis out. Immoral LBGT people should not be allowed to mingle with normal Immoral Somali savages.


Trolling aside

@VixR have you tried a desperate somali guy before. We make a good dildo.

 

[VixR]

Haye

Don’t apologize to him. Why are these noobs worse than toddlers. One begging for an apology, another one I never said a kalima to calling me a lesbo.

This @VixR is feminist lesbo who hates men. Ignore this qashin bih

If you were the last “man” on earth lol.

 

[CaliTedesse]

Don’t apologize to him. Why are these noobs worse than toddlers. One begging for an apology, another one I never said a kalima calling me a lesbo.

if you were the last “man” on earth

I am never apologizing to him or any other skinny qamis wearing fake self righteous sheikh who use the religion only in their favour because they are weak passive fruity and soft men. It's their only source of power and they know it.

 

[B-is-the-code]

Don’t apologize to him. Why are these noobs worse than toddlers. One begging for an apology, another one I never said a kalima to calling me a lesbo.

If you were the last “man” on earth lol.

You are a dead man to me

 

[Céleste]

Stop derailing the thread with qashin.and ffs sake stop insulting people.

@B-is-the-code @AhmedSmelly

 

[AhmedSmelly]

Stop derailing the thread with qashin.and ffs sake stop insulting people.

@B-is-the-code @AhmedSmelly

I havent insulted people. Dont put me in the same basket as the other guy. I am giving out sexual innuendoes. Nothing more and nothing less. To spice it up, I called her Immoral. While calling everybody immoral too. If everybody is insulted, NO ONE IS.

I know I went overboard by calling you lesbian @VixR . I am sorry and I hope you can forgive me for riding the hate train @B-is-the-code made when he announced you are gay.

Are you lesbian tho? I have this feeling I can make you bi.

 

[Inquisitive_]

Bro, i spent an hour trying to cheer her up. A whole hour. I listened until she finished then i sympathised. Then i tried cheering her up. Then i tried to help by saying i will take the baby of your hands now and go get some rest. Nothing worked. She will complain about something else.

Its why i am here. I dont like to air these things on a forum. Even though ss forumers here like to help a somali including the most immature fellas. I am here because i ran out of options.

Have you carried out this action and took it from her hands for a weekend so she can chill with friends or go spa?

And I mean not once but at least a few times ? If not these are just empty promises on your part.

If you have done this and continue to do so then you need to explore whether she is going through some post pregnancy depression as @Saredo mentioned, they are pretty common.

I am surprised none of the females on here have chipped in on how to identify this and how to best treat it @Gambar @Saredo @NotMyL

You need to exhaust all avenues first, rule out the above and do your part, if that no longer works seek family mediation as per sunnah, you appoint someone, she appoints someone and let them both talk and make a ruling as per sunnah.

By the way, do you regularly make the dua regarding your wife and children becoming the coolness of your eye ? If not you need to incorporate this after every salah.

 

[Gambar]

Have you carried out this action and took it from her hands for a weekend so she can chill with friends or go spa?

And I mean not once but at least a few times ? If not these are just empty promises on your part.

If you have done this and continue to do so then you need to explore whether she is going through some post pregnancy depression as @Saredo mentioned, they are pretty common.

I am surprised none of the females on here have chipped in on how to identify this and how to best treat it @Gambar @Saredo @NotMyL

You need to exhaust all avenues first, rule out the above and do your part, if that no longer works seek family mediation as per sunnah, you appoint someone, she appoints someone and let them both talk and make a ruling as per sunnah.

By the way, do you regularly make the dua regarding your wife and children becoming the coolness of your eye ? If not you need to incorporate this after every salah.

He knows what to do, he’s not here for any solutions. Just to vilify his wife as a “complainer” even though she’s had their baby.