To the guys here, how do you stop your woman from complaining?

[NotMyL]

Have you carried out this action and took it from her hands for a weekend so she can chill with friends or go spa?

And I mean not once but at least a few times ? If not these are just empty promises on your part.

If you have done this and continue to do so then you need to explore whether she is going through some post pregnancy depression as @Saredo mentioned, they are pretty common.

I am surprised none of the females on here have chipped in on how to identify this and how to best treat it @Gambar @Saredo @NotMyL

You need to exhaust all avenues first, rule out the above and do your part, if that no longer works seek family mediation as per sunnah, you appoint someone, she appoints someone and let them both talk and make a ruling as per sunnah.

By the way, do you regularly make the dua regarding your wife and children becoming the coolness of your eye ? If not you need to incorporate this after every salah.

It’s simple, was she nagging you about everything before the baby? Having a baby changes some women more so than others, if the “nagging” is new thing then you know it has something to do with the baby.

 

[Inquisitive_]

It’s simple, was she nagging you about everything before the baby? Having a baby changes some women more so than others, if the “nagging” is new thing then you know it has something to do with the baby.

What's the most effective treatment once it's diagnosed?

He knows what to do, he’s not here for any solutions. Just to vilify his wife as a “complainer” even though she’s had their baby.

I disagree, this is how anyone that is frustrated asks for advice, both male and female bash each other first. .

That's just how most humans operate, the fact they bash each other while still together is an indication they still want each other, because once that disappears it becomes apathy and indifference both far worse.

 

[Gambar]

What's the most effective treatment once it's diagnosed?

I disagree, this is how anyone that is frustrated asks for advice, both male and female bash each other first. .

That's just how most humans operate, the fact they bash each other while still together is an indication they still want each other, because once that disappears it becomes apathy and indifference both far worse.

Well he needs to be patient with her. Like you said, make dua. She may be overwhelmed by how much her life has changed and even her body. They need to reach out to family for some help. They need to learn to better communicate with each other.

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[Saredo]

Have you carried out this action and took it from her hands for a weekend so she can chill with friends or go spa?

And I mean not once but at least a few times ? If not these are just empty promises on your part.

If you have done this and continue to do so then you need to explore whether she is going through some post pregnancy depression as @Saredo mentioned, they are pretty common.

I am surprised none of the females on here have chipped in on how to identify this and how to best treat it @Gambar @Saredo @NotMyL

You need to exhaust all avenues first, rule out the above and do your part, if that no longer works seek family mediation as per sunnah, you appoint someone, she appoints someone and let them both talk and make a ruling as per sunnah.

By the way, do you regularly make the dua regarding your wife and children becoming the coolness of your eye ? If not you need to incorporate this after every salah.

i think you treat it with therapy, talking etc. Maybe time off like you suggested. I don’t know. Some say medication but I’m against it especially when she is breastfeeding.

 

[NotMyL]

What's the most effective treatment once it's diagnosed?

I disagree, this is how anyone that is frustrated asks for advice, both male and female bash each other first. .

That's just how most humans operate, the fact they bash each other while still together is an indication they still want each other, because once that disappears it becomes apathy and indifference both far worse.

I have a feeling the wife herself doesn’t know she has postpartum depression, first step is sitting down with her and bringing that up. They can either seek a therapist or if they want to deal with it on their own, read up on it. With any kind of depression you shouldn’t expect it to simply just go away on its own, you treat it, give it time and keep being a supportive husband who understands. He needs to come home and take charge, tell her he understands she had a hard day and express to her he’s there to help. Newborns are not easy, so maybe doing the nighttime routine with the baby is something he can take up, it will free her up and give him sometime to bond with the baby since he is at work all day.

 

[VantaBlack]

man I have tried everything. Listening, positive reinforcement. Gratitude building, trying to fix issues everything. But every single day my woman is complaining and whining about every single thing.

Shit it’s so bad sometimes I prefer to stay at work late.

Man what does a man do?

If she is too annoying, then find a better wife.

Simple fix.

 

[Céleste]

I'm surprised by @Inquisitive_'s empathy towards the wife. keep it up walaal.

 

[CaliTedesse]

I'm surprised by @Inquisitive_'s empathy towards the wife. keep it up walaal.

I always said Inquisitive waa nin rag ah I could tell from reading his comments and threads way back it's not like the average Somalian man

 

[Céleste]

I always said Inquisitive waa nin rag ah I could tell from reading his comments and threads way back it's not like the average Somalian man

I may not agree with him all the time but as you said he is a real man.

 

[Mimir]

@Dino samaalic is right. Women tend to lose logic when they're emotional.

So you mean to tell me that she's sitting in the house all day and expects you to handle the baby right after you come from work? Saaxib from the info you gave us,this girl is slacking on her duty as a wife and a mother.

@Inquisitive_ you might be right about the merciless thing

 

[Dino]

The baby is more than a year old. Does post partum depression extend beyond the first few months?

 

[NotMyL]

The baby is more than a year old. Does post partum depression extend beyond the first few months?

Without treatments it can last for years, you need to get some books on it and also bring it up at your next doctor’s appointment.

 

[Gambar]

I'm surprised by @Inquisitive_'s empathy towards the wife. keep it up walaal.

He’s actually mature in this sense.

The baby is more than a year old. Does post partum depression extend beyond the first few months?

It does. The baby is a toddler and if it hasn’t been addressed it can go on.

 

[VixR]

I'm surprised by @Inquisitive_'s empathy towards the wife. keep it up walaal.

The only male comment concerned for the wife, that is, after he told him to pretend he was marrying a second wife and mentions 4s. That’s the closest/best we get on here

I’m not so impressed, but at least it’s somewhat humanized, unlike the others.

 

[B-is-the-code]

I havent insulted people. Dont put me in the same basket as the other guy. I am giving out sexual innuendoes. Nothing more and nothing less. To spice it up, I called her Immoral. While calling everybody immoral too. If everybody is insulted, NO ONE IS.

I know I went overboard by calling you lesbian @VixR . I am sorry and I hope you can forgive me for riding the hate train @B-is-the-code made when he announced you are gay.

Are you lesbian tho? I have this feeling I can make you bi.

You passed the ball and i made the joke, whats the problem here..ma anigaad igu keentay sxb
@VixR sorry sis we love you too, you gave us high blood pressure in every threads so im trying to ease my pain walaalo

 

[NotMyL]

Guys @Inquisitive_ is pretty reasonable guy unless it has something to do with obesity and modern medicine, then don’t expect any logic :siilaanyolaugh:

 

[Céleste]

I cant stop laughing whenever he writes about obese xaliimos.

He even told me his calves are probably skinnier than mine.

 

[Gambar]

I cant stop laughing whenever he writes about obese xaliimos.

He even told me his calves are probably skinnier than mine.

He told me not to listen to the advice of land whales when I shared that my “habbos” were critiquing me for being too skinny.

 

[Muji]

I wouldn’t be surprised if this whole thing was made up. Or we are only hearing a skewed side.

he probably asked for the baby and has left her to do all the chores and child rearing whilst he goes to the gym. Eurgh.

 

[NotMyL]

I cant stop laughing whenever he writes about obese xaliimos.

He even told me his calves are probably skinnier than mine.

He almost convinced @Saredo she was obese for being into slim built guys, she said f*ck it haaye