35 year old woman and 50 year old man.
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35 is not a young age.
No. This guy is 60 and all of is 4 wives are in there 30s.
EyiPunter
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This seems like he stays with fighting weight for hes hight. This will able you to be healthier and age more graceful. Rather than the opposite
Once both people reach a certain age the age gap doesn't really matter. 35 year old woman and 50 year old man is fine. Both are grown adults
But 40 year old man hooking up with a 22 year old girl, to me is kinda creepy
But 40 year old man hooking up with a 22 year old girl, to me is kinda creepy
A 50 yr old man is old enough to be your dad. If that’s what you’re into, then go for it.
Btw, whilst 35 isn’t young, it’s a lot younger than 50, that’s for sure. Some of these delusional men are going to try and convince you that 50 for a man isn’t old, that’s not true.
Btw, whilst 35 isn’t young, it’s a lot younger than 50, that’s for sure. Some of these delusional men are going to try and convince you that 50 for a man isn’t old, that’s not true.
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My parents had this age gap. Here were the differences, though:
- Top percentile in handsomeness/good looks.
- Looked younger than their peer group.
- Ethical, moral character.
- Not previously married and no children.
- More educated than most.
- Had resources.
Let is not go around exclaiming that people are the same. Some possess attributes that aren't very commonplace. How many do you know that fit that description? Few. Certain traits must set someone apart to make them worth the investment.
- Top percentile in handsomeness/good looks.
- Looked younger than their peer group.
- Ethical, moral character.
- Not previously married and no children.
- More educated than most.
- Had resources.
Let is not go around exclaiming that people are the same. Some possess attributes that aren't very commonplace. How many do you know that fit that description? Few. Certain traits must set someone apart to make them worth the investment.
O you who have believed, obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you. And if you disagree over anything, refer it to Allah and the Messenger, if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. That is the best [way] and best in result.
-Surah Al-Nisā 4:59 (translation of the meaning)
if the Quran and Sunnah doesn't care and doesn't see something as wrong, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
that being said, the man and woman need to consent and either is free to reject the other. but if the din has no problem with the marriage and the man and woman agree with the marriage, what does it matter what ppl think? let them go for it if it's what they want. a 35 year old woman is definitely an adult, it's between her and the guy (as well as the woman's wali)
-Surah Al-Nisā 4:59 (translation of the meaning)
if the Quran and Sunnah doesn't care and doesn't see something as wrong, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
that being said, the man and woman need to consent and either is free to reject the other. but if the din has no problem with the marriage and the man and woman agree with the marriage, what does it matter what ppl think? let them go for it if it's what they want. a 35 year old woman is definitely an adult, it's between her and the guy (as well as the woman's wali)
If you were to ask an 18-year-old here if they would entertain a relationship with someone significantly older, most would likely refuse. Similarly, if you asked those over 18 if they'd marry someone almost two decades their senior, they'd probably share the same sentiment. There must be something remarkable about them to make such relationships work. In regions with fewer resources, like Somalia, larger age disparities are often tolerated, as marriage serves as a means of livelihood for many economically disadvantaged individuals, particularly young women in rural areas. However, this dynamic doesn't shield them from the potential vulnerability of becoming young widows or facing divorce, which can exacerbate their financial insecurity.
Well age ge is just a numba 
In both first world and third world countries, there are young people who are attracted to older men. Many of these relationships stem from genuine love, leading to marriage and having children together. a lot of my uncles, who are between age 40 and 50, married young women in their early 20s, around 21 or 23 years old. There’s nothing inherently wrong with this, especially considering they are adults, especially when they reach 18 years old.
Perfect match i think.
If that is the case why are large age gaps in developed countries less than 8% of the population and more than 90% of women in richer nations in which they don't need men for survival are married to men who are 2-6 yrs older?
I can bet your uncles are married to women in their 20s back home. The current economic and social climate back home is completely different and women are marrying mostly for financial security. If these marriages were simply based on love, age-gap relationships will also be found at a similar % in developed nations.........but it isn't and that's why your argument falls apart. Even simply looking at the Somali Western diaspora shatters your argument. Why are hardly any Somali girls from the West married to man old enough to be their fathers? I've hardly ever seen it in my life.
empressjamila
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It’s not creepy like it would be if you were 20 and he was 35. But there are some downsides to an age gap this big. You guys wouldn’t be able to grow old together for one, and it would be harder for you to relate to one another.
Personally I wouldn’t go any more than 10 years older and even that’s kinda pushing it for me.
Personally I wouldn’t go any more than 10 years older and even that’s kinda pushing it for me.
Well age is just a numba
When people who are young in the first world say they are attracted to older men they often don't mean significantly older. A middle aged man unless he looks young or handsome is not the picture of loveliness. Money is attractive to some I suppose. How about you devise a poll asking if people are open to large age gaps and see how receptive they are? Or better yet look at average age gaps of married couples. It likely isn't 15-20 years on average.
