I just heard, if done successfully polygamy can work for people without problems so I asked the question as soon as you do people believe you are unhappy or miserable which isn’t always the case.
tell him how much you love him and your marriage and that there's a personal need you have and be specific with your reasons to why you want some more alone time for yourselfI get where your coming from and it’s not harsh it’s just the truth but the thing is I also care for his parents and my mother who is disabled. So it’s not just children that are a big responsibility for me. I also work 6 days a week at our family business. It feels wrong for me to deny him more children as he is more than financially able to care for even hypothetically 3 more wives.
what I understand about what you said is that you have too many responsibilities, the problem is not your husband but you are too busy to give everybody time and attention while having time for yourself. I think you are maybe having a burnout.I get where your coming from and it’s not harsh it’s just the truth but the thing is I also care for his parents and my mother who is disabled. So it’s not just children that are a big responsibility for me. I also work 6 days a week at our family business. It feels wrong for me to deny him more children as he is more than financially able to care for even hypothetically 3 more wives.
what I understand about what you said is that you have too many responsibilities, the problem is not your husband but you are too busy to give everybody time and attention while having time for yourself. I think you are maybe having a burnout.
Sister, if your husband is wealthy enough why not stop working or working part-time to have some time for yourself and you can also have some healthcare at home that can help you with your disabled mother.
May Allah make it easy for you, pray to Allah and seek scholar advice.
No regrets wllhi, alhamdulilah I believe I am more than blessed as I am. And I don’t feel like I have missed anything tbh, I just want to make it easier for me but in a Islamic way.
he is a hidden apostate ....What are you doing bro?! Mu'tah is Haram. We aren't Shi'a. There are authentic Hadeeths from the prophet PPUH forbidding mu'tah. Both Imam Bukhari and Muslim have narrated them.
I would sincerely advise you to speak to him regarding polygamous marriage. Explain to him the burden on your shoulders. Tell him to get a second wife, probably younger fertile one, to satisfy his sexual desires. That way both of you can be happy. Don't you EVER hasten to divorce, it's not a solution to your current problems.I get where your coming from and it’s not harsh it’s just the truth but the thing is I also care for his parents and my mother who is disabled. So it’s not just children that are a big responsibility for me. I also work 6 days a week at our family business. It feels wrong for me to deny him more children as he is more than financially able to care for even hypothetically 3 more wives.
how old are your siblings sis. if old enough they can help you at the shop. your mother will certainly understand that her daughter is tired of all these responsibilities. and I guarantee you that by helping each other you will be closer as a family. instead of one sibling being the slave or the cash cow of the family.I have tried but I work for my mother and siblings it feels wrong while she’s alive to mess up the one thing she cares about and I will Thanks sister
how old are your siblings sis. if old enough they can help you at the shop. your mother will certainly understand that her daughter is tired of all these responsibilities. and I guarantee you that by helping each other you will be closer as a family. instead of one sibling being the slave or the cash cow of the family.
Also no matter what big or small never stop communicating your feeling and views to your husband.
I would sincerely advise you to speak to him regarding polygamous marriage. Explain to him the burden on your shoulders. Tell him to get a second wife, probably younger fertile one, to satisfy his sexual desires. That way both of you can be happy. Don't you EVER hasten to divorce, it's not a solution to your current problems.
My grandmother in the 1990’ s had this same type of situation and married my grandfather off to her 2nd cousin, the children were happy, they would both be cordial and have dinners together on special occasions or celebration. There was never any jealousy or bad vibes towards each other but in this day and age is this even possible to find another woman who is respectful, well mannered, selfless and smart. It seems damn near impossible
Yes, he does want more children but on the marriage front he doesn’t like the ideaHorta, ask your man if he wants to be in a polygamous marriage. Has he told you he wanted more kids?
Yes, he does want more children but on the marriage front he doesn’t like the idea