here is my advice , as im married and have kids as well , i dont know you full situation so i cant say a lot however there is nothing wrong with asking for alone time. its easy to lose ourselves as mothers , so having your own personality important. my suggestion is maybe have a set schedule like friday evenings by going out . since the corona virus is out , have a drive get coffee. or whatever you please. have husband care for the kids . and Sunday morning have breakfast with the family and then maybe ask husband to care for the kid while you have an hour to yourself again .
as for second wife, if you really , deep down in your heart , want him to seek it , no problem . however , if its becouse he is "clingy" then i suggest you talk it out first and resolve a solution. then revisit the second wife thing .... give yourself time to process as well though ... istakara prayers too
inshallah khair macanto . sending hugs
as for second wife, if you really , deep down in your heart , want him to seek it , no problem . however , if its becouse he is "clingy" then i suggest you talk it out first and resolve a solution. then revisit the second wife thing .... give yourself time to process as well though ... istakara prayers too
inshallah khair macanto . sending hugs