Marriage

[Baarisiyomoos]

Have a happy, smiling face at all times without looking like a weirdo. Be very approachable and kind. Someone will wife you.

I’ve been told i have rbf so im working on relaxing my face

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

I was being facetious.

Do you mind giving me some demographic/background information? Age, location, preferences, marriage timeline (ideally) and lifestyle factors?

I’m almost 20, from Toronto, id like a guy who’s on his deen, kind, respectful, has/is getting a degree, taller than me, close to my age. ideally id like to be married by 25.

 

[JustSomeGuy]

I feel that uni is the best time to meet like minded, ambitious somali guys tho. I wouldn’t get married before graduating though

Focus on finishing University first but you should also use this opportunity to network so you have options in the future when you're ready for marriage. You don't have to be super close with those guys but at least have their contact details for the future, basically what I'm saying is to ensure that you have a variety of options.

 

[JustSomeGuy]

I’m almost 20, from Toronto, id like a guy who’s on his deen, kind, respectful, has/is getting a degree, taller than me, close to my age. ideally id like to be married by 25.

How tall are you?

 

[Kane]

@Baarisiyomoos

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[Sophisticate]

I’m almost 20, from Toronto, id like a guy who’s on his deen, kind, respectful, has/is getting a degree, taller than me, close to my age. ideally id like to be married by 25.

You are 19 and want to get married in 5-6 years. I don't think it is advisable to talk to a brother as it will just waste your time. Your main goal should be your studies and perhaps knowing the guys at your school through volunteering in student organizations (Somali Students Association, Professional Organizations or the Muslim Students Association, to name a few). Chances are, most of these brothers do not want to marry while in school and wish to build themselves up. It's not only a matter of you wanting to get married, but they must also be in a place where they want that. Also, remember that plenty of those you see getting married (especially early on) will divorce. Perhaps not now, but sometime down the road. You aren't missing out.​

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

How tall are you?

I’m 5’6

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

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[Baarisiyomoos]

You are 19 and want to get married in 5-6 years. I don't think it is advisable to talk to a brother as it will just waste your time. Your main goal should be your studies and perhaps knowing the guys at your school through volunteering in student organizations (Somali Students Association, Professional Organizations or the Muslim Students Association, to name a few). Chances are, most of these brothers do not want to marry while in school and wish to build themselves up. It's not only a matter of you wanting to get married, but they must also be in a place where they want that. Also, remember that plenty of those you see getting married (especially early on) will divorce. Perhaps not now, but sometime down the road. You aren't missing out.​

Yeah maybe I am in a bit of a rush, i just don’t want to regret not taking advantage of my time at uni. I attend the events the somali student association hosts but the men stick to themselves and so do the women lmao. so there is no overlap there. But I will just be patient and what’s meant to be will happen

 

[soomal__.nur1]

The most important thing to know before marriage is to marry someone that aligned with your goals🤝🏾

 

[Mj4L]

I’m almost 20, from Toronto, id like a guy who’s on his deen, kind, respectful, has/is getting a degree, taller than me, close to my age. ideally id like to be married by 25.

Just go to the Somali mosques and ask for a husband there register your self

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Just go to the Somali mosques and ask for a husband there register your self

that’s admitting defeat maybe I’ll do that as a last resort but I’d like to find a man on my own

 

[kulane]

Yeah maybe I am in a bit of a rush, i just don’t want to regret not taking advantage of my time at uni. I attend the events the somali student association hosts but the men stick to themselves and so do the women lmao. so there is no overlap there. But I will just be patient and what’s meant to be will happen

Why do you act like you live in the 90's? Don't you have social media accounts like any normal people do? Your average female has thousands of guy followers on social media. Majority of people get to know each other through online. I don't see how you can't get guys to approach you. I mean this is the easiest age for females to get married. There is literally more young men in the world than young females. Yaab

 

[xxx_newacc]

I’ll try that sis it’s just so hard seeing so many people around me getting engaged or married or having shukaansi and im all alone

Wallahi, you are young. Don’t feel the pressure to be that proactive at this point in time. At least finish uni, and grow a bit. Marriage is no light matter. Before you go there, you should at least be knowledgeable & know your rights and your husband’s rights, etc.

 

[Khaem]

Why do you act like you live in the 90's? Don't you have social media accounts like any normal people do? Your average female has thousands of guy followers on social media. Majority of people get to know each other through online. I don't see how you can't get guys to approach you. I mean this is the easiest age for females to get married. There is literally more young men in the world than young females. Yaab

People chatting over socials is mostly for flings and hook ups my bro. Finding people in your day to day where you can properly vet them and ask around about them js the proper way imo.

 

[Mj4L]

that’s admitting defeat maybe I’ll do that as a last resort but I’d like to find a man on my own

What social media apps do you use and when you find a guy attractive what signs do you show that you find them attractive

 

[Yaraye]

TRY THE KDRAMA ROUTE B!TCH!

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[Muse Guud]

Ask your parents if you're serious about marriage their vetting process is proper.

 

[Chase]

I turn 20 soon. i would say im nice looking, I look like the average somali girl, im no model though. id prefer to meet someone organically, if that fails then I’ll ask my parents or brothers though

You're so young, your life has barely begun

Of course you should be proactive, but don't be too hard on yourself, our parents gen married at your age, most Somalis born in the West marry mid-twenties to early-twenties now, same for other Muslim groups out there.

 

[Kizaru]

University is the best time to meet someone lol

it can but it can also hurts your studies significantly.