My cousin divorced her husband, "This is not your house."

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Even if you argue and a woman walks away from you, follow her from a safe distance. She'll appreciate and remember that, that shows protection and love. Not to mention, that you are a man and know your role in life. Even if she doesn't like you anymore, she'll have begrudging respect for you.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

The highest form of love shown to a woman is protection. It starts with the father, if not father, there is a brother, or the mother steps in multiple roles. The safer a woman feels, the more love she feels. A husband who lets his wife leave the house, at night, does not love her. A father would never let this happen, a brother would never.

Teeda kale, you would be LIVID as a father, seeing your daughter knock on your door at night, without her husband on her heels. Waa GUN.

she left the crib at her own will that’s why @Yaraye is celebrating it. I don’t know the context of the argument but if someone decides to walk out of a conversation or in this case the house, feel free to do it but don’t expect someone to chase after you by doing so. That’s manipulative and childish

And even then the man is still trying to reconnect with her which i personally wouldn’t have done unless it was all my fault. if someone walks away let them be

 

[Angelina]

For those saying she walked out of
Her own accord, If it was in the middle of the night, he would have stopped her and said he didn’t mean it like that. You don’t say get out and your wife leaves and then act like he probably didn’t mean it.

I highly doubt any woman would want to leave at the dead of the night unless it was a case in which a man was like ‘OUT’ ect.

 

[Man with a garuun]

It seems this thread has turned into another man-bashing thread. There is no benefit of the doubt given to the poor guy.

 

[Angelina]

she left the crib at her own will that’s why @Yaraye is celebrating it. I don’t know the context of the argument but if someone decides to walk out of a conversation or in this case the house, feel free to do it but don’t expect someone to chase after you by doing so. That’s manipulative and childish

And even then the man is still trying to reconnect with her which i personally wouldn’t have done unless it was all my fault. if someone walks away let them be

Erm, he said get out. What’s not computing? Imagine saying get out to your spouse in the middle of the night?

She didn’t just leave, he kicked her out.

Why are you acting like she just left for no reason Keep it?!

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

she left the crib at her own will that’s why @Yaraye is celebrating it. I don’t know the context of the argument but if someone decides to walk out of a conversation or in this case the house, feel free to do it but don’t expect someone to chase after you by doing so. That’s manipulative and childish

Not chase her to make up, follow her to make sure she is SAFE. Make sure she gets SAFELY to her family's house, or wherever she is going.

And even then the man is still trying to reconnect with her which i personally wouldn’t have done unless it was all my fault. if someone walks away let them be

What is there to connect? He told her it's not her house, that means GET OUT. And she did, AT NIGHT.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

It seems this thread has turned into another man-bashing thread. I gave up.

What's 'man bashing' precisely.

Nimanka masuuliyadooda waa maxay??

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

For those saying she walked out of
Her own accord, If it was in the middle of the night, he would have stopped her and said he didn’t mean it like that. You don’t say get out and your wife leaves and then act like he probably didn’t mean it.

I highly doubt any woman would want to leave at the dead of the night unless it was a case in which a man was like ‘OUT’ ect.

Sounds like he said 'guriga iiga bax, adiga guriga ma lihid, anaa gurigaan leh', and then he watched her pack and leave at night. That is the very definition of 'get out, I don't want you'.

@Yaraye

Clear this up for us sis.

 

[Angelina]

It seems this thread has turned into another man-bashing thread. There is no benefit of the doubt given to the poor guy.

You’re insane. Hardly any poster said all men like this. In fact most of are shocked because most husbands wouldn’t tell their wives to leave in the dead of the night.

Why do defend men who behave badly and then project those men on every man?

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

It reminds me of those men that go to sheekhs and say "Sheekh I divorced my wife three times, can I get back with her". I swear, I always heard those questions at muxaadaro.

Erm..no... she has to consummate a marriage with another man first, if that marriage fails, then yes.

 

[Angelina]

Sounds like he said 'guriga iiga bax, adiga guriga ma lihid, anaa gurigaan leh', and then he watched her pack and leave at night. That is the very definition of 'get out, I don't want you'.

@Yaraye

Clear this up for us sis.

Girl literally said she got ‘kicked out’

And Keep it boqol and El Niño are acting like she walked out on her own accord.

What does the word ‘kicked out’ mean, it means to be told to leave the house yet how the hell can these guys see that word and assume she just left for no reason?

I wonder if it’s a comprehension issue or if people read what they want to read. I’m baffled like truly baffled.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Erm, he said get out. What’s not computing? Imagine saying get out to your spouse in the middle of the night?

She didn’t just leave, he kicked her out.

Why are you acting like she just left for no reason Keep it?!

Not chase her to make up, follow her to make sure she is SAFE. Make sure she gets SAFELY to her family's house, or wherever she is going.



What is there to connect? He told her it's not her house, that means GET OUT. And she did, AT NIGHT.

Like i said what’s the context? Maybe she was doing something that the husband didn’t allow in the house which is what warranted him to say it.

Your interpreting it as GET OUT OF MY HOUSE.

I’m interpreting that statement as MY HOME MY RULES/LEADERSHIP

we can argue if what he says is warranted or not idc but i’ll repeat again there is no context just a snippet of an argument and her walking away

 

[Man with a garuun]

What's 'man bashing' precisely.

Nimanka masuuliyadooda waa maxay??

To be providers and protectors of their families. That is what a man is supposed to do. But we live in the West where women have other "rights" where some misuse them and violate the man's rights.

It is a male-bashing thread if you don't have the full story and then start passing judgments, and attack the poor guy who is not here to defend himself. In the court of public opinion, one oughta hear both sides before making up his (or her) mind.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

To be providers and protectors of their families. That is what a man is supposed to do. But we live in the West where women have other "rights" where some misuse them and violate the man's rights.

What rights do women have in the West that are offensive?

It is a male-bashing thread if you don't have the full story and then start passing judgments, and attack the poor guy who is not here to defend himself. In the court of public opinion, one oughta hear both sides before making up his (or her) mind.

The context was clear, and @Yaraye will tell us if we misinterpreted it

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Girl literally said she got ‘kicked out’

And Keep it boqol and El Niño are acting like she walked out on her own accord.

What does the word ‘kicked out’ mean, it means to be told to leave the house yet how the hell can these guys see that word and assume she just left for no reason?

I wonder if it’s a comprehension issue or if people read what they want to read. I’m baffled like truly baffled.

You can't kick a woman out (who does that anyway, it's so sassy), and then expect her back.
That is called a D I V O R C E.

 

[Man with a garuun]

You’re insane. Hardly any poster said all men like this. In fact most of are shocked because most husbands wouldn’t tell their wives to leave in the dead of the night.

Why do defend men who behave badly and then project those men on every man?

There is no proof that the man behaved badly. No proof was presented whatsoever. At least I did not see it. Perhaps you can enlighten me if you saw evidence that shows the man in question misbehaved.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

There is no proof that the man behaved badly. No proof was presented whatsoever. At least I did not see it. Perhaps you can enlighten me if you saw evidence that shows the man in question misbehaved.

Separation ="I think we need some space, time to live apart, where do you want to go, or shall I leave"?

Divorce = "Get out of the house, it's my house"!!

 

[Man with a garuun]

You can't kick a woman out (who does that anyway, it's so sassy), and then expect her back.
That is called a D I V O R C E.

Saying "This is my house" and kicking someone out are completely different. Where did he say "get out of my house?"

 

[Angelina]

Like i said what’s the context? Maybe she was doing something that the husband didn’t allow in the house which is what warranted him to say it.

Your interpreting it as GET OUT OF MY HOUSE.

I’m interpreting that statement as MY HOME MY RULES/LEADERSHIP

we can argue if what he says is warranted or not idc but i’ll repeat again there is no context just a snippet of an argument and her walking away

No man with any shred of protectiveness would ever tell his wife to leave in he middle of the night. There is no excuses for this Keep it and above all it is ceeb in every society and even more so with us being Muslim.

Im worried about the younger Gen who don’t know what acceptable and what isn’t.

Such a man isn’t masculine. Doesn’t have any sort of protectiveness.

Islamically even within a divorce a husband can’t tell a woman to leave for 3 months and needs to provide for her those 3 months. That’s our religion and guideline. Kicking a woman out even when you’re at your wits end is forbidden.

On top of that, as a man how do you flex this is ‘my house’ when that’s your wife? That a house they both share. She cooks and cleans in that house and he’s saying ‘if my house’ and that’s normal behavior for you? What is she then? The maid of the house that’s being employed by the owner? No wonder modern day women don’t want to be housewives anymore.

No matter how you spin it, it’s ceeb and nasty.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Saying "This is my house" and kicking someone out are completely different. Where did he say "get out of my house?"

this is my house can be used in the context to exert leadership and house rules. maybe she was doing something in the house or having people in the house who shouldn’t be there for him to say it