@Angelina or normalize the other side initiating some things
Usually those people are people that have come to the father, whether it be the guy himself, the guy's father or uncle. Once they have spoken to the father, that is when the father would suggest the person to the daughter.
Very rarely would a father go up to a man or family of the man and say, get to know my daughter/marry my daughter. That is seen as very ceeb in our culture.
My father has suggested people to me as well, but these were people that have expressed interest by speaking to him first.
babes men know how men be acting your father is just helping not forcing famYou're basically calling women stupid and taking the blame wholeave their own kids. Great!
My father has tried to get me married to people so many times I refused flat out each time. I think Marriage is personal choice not necessarily a family affair.
You will never know till its too lateYou're basically calling women stupid and taking the blame wholeave their own kids. Great!
My father has tried to get me married to people so many times I refused flat out each time. I think Marriage is personal choice not necessarily a family affair.
Thread reminds me of this post I saw on Twitter
These kinda topics can be a sore spot if your father is uninvolved in your life so I can see why some posters automatically go to Somali fathers ain't shit card.
He asked i declined doesn't change the respect I have for him regardless. My answer is still nooooooopebabes men know how men be acting your father is just helping not forcing fam
It is a family affair if you choose the wrong person. I am in my 30s so trust me I know how somalis act. I respect my father egardless. I would rather take ownership of my life.✌You will never know till its too late
Marriage in a Somali culture is a family affair, 100%. If it was all about personal choice, nobody would get discrimanated and there would have been no issue with inter clan marriage between a lower and a higher caste marriage or interracial marriage.
Take your chance whilst you have it, one day will be too late and you will regret it
So hypothetically, the wedding, the mehr, the whole marriage process is a "private matter" only to be taken between you and the groom. After all, a marriage is also the coming together of 2 family also.It is a family affair if you choose the wrong person. I am in my 30s so trust me I know how somalis act. I respect my father egardless. I would rather take ownership of my life.✌
Basically The wedding is to make it known that you're off the market. When I say private matter I mean its your personal choice and just cus I married into his family dont mean I am married to them, I am married to him Not them of course I'll respect them as my inlaws but thats it.So hypothetically, the wedding, the mehr, the whole marriage process is a "private matter" only to be taken between you and the groom. After all, a marriage is also the coming together of 2 family also.
I mean if your in your 30s, your already in control of your life. But when the ship sails, its game over, take the chance whilst you have it, if you feel like it
Before you do that, find your gender though saxib. Helps to have solid one and get out of being fluid before you can help a child noh? LOL.
Saaxiib I’m sexuality fluid innitI am praying away his gay as we speak
I will cleanse this gender bending khaniis very soon, Inshallah.
I am praying away his gay as we speak
I will cleanse this gender bending khaniis very soon, Inshallah.
babes men know how men be acting your father is just helping not forcing fam
Smart guyFrom a guys perspective, I'm not even entertaining marriage thoughts till I get my stuff together which can take years.
All these dumb broke adheers coming to me telling me to get married and all my problems will be solved smh.
Life is tough if you don't know people and all these naive girls fresh outta uni expecting the world. Get a few years experience and then we will talk.